I have been dating this girl who is 16 years old, while I am 18 years old. I am currently in college while she is in grade 11 highschool. We have been dating for more then a year now and I am just wondering about a few things.
I have had some trouble with her flirting with other guys in the past, she has gotten better but I notice she still has some slip ups and it hurts me. I was on facebook a little while ago and I was just looking at one of her pages and she left a comment on one of her "Summer flings" pictures. It read "hey hottie! how are you and (insert her name) I miss you <3." Supposedly her summer fling (before she met me) just broke up with his gf and she was just being nice. But I have been trouble getting over it, is something wrong with me?
Just recently some guy in her class asked her to come over to his house and watch a movie with him. She said yes because he is supposedly a shy, awkward dude and he got the nerve to ask her. I was pissed off when I heard this from her, I immediately told her that I was uncomfortable with this and she said "I don`t have to go if you don't want me to." I felt bad but I was still mad that she actually said yes.
She is working two jobs and she has highschool to deal with while I am working one job and have college to deal with. We don't see each other very much, we didn't even see each other over the long weekend (thanksgiving weekend.. I am Canadian). We had plans for tomorrow but she canceled them to go with her friend to her friends grandparents house for Thanksgiving. She said "I already had the plans laid out and you can't cancel them." Unfortunately she has canceled our plans before and did today to see her friend.
I don't know what to think about this situation, am I over reacting? It seems like everything even the small things tick me off and I get mad at her. I don't know why. I love her very much, I would just like an opinion on how I should be going about all this.
Well this thread has now gotten to the point where it is just flaming.
Thank you for the information, I expected a more mature audience especially on a website where many needy people who are desperate for answers come for guidance.
For those of you who care and are interested let me know and I will keep you informed. The rest, I appreciate your opinions and posts but I do not need the childish reply's and comments.
what were you expecting? you had sex with a little girl and she may be pregnant now. but you're trying to say that since she took it out of your pants, it's not your fault? an even though you don't even know for sure if she is pregnant, and if she is you don't even know if she wants an abortion, you're already planning her abortion. if you don't want the sarcastic comments back, don't do stupid things like try to blame this all on her.
Most of us are parents...many of us have young girls, so this hits close to the heart. I'm not apologizing for our remarks, but rather justifying them.
When you had intercourse with this girl, you KNEW that it was wrong, yet you claim to have a good head on your shoulders.
Yes, if she is pregnant, you face criminal charges. Her parents do not necessarily have to report it. Here in the states, when I have a minor that comes in pregnant from someone significantly older than her (above the legal age of consent), it is my duty to report that person. If I don't, I could face criminal charges.
I don't think you comprehend the severity of the situation you might be in.
Unfortunately you think our responses are childish, but that's because you don't want to hear the truth.
The truth of the matter is that you were wrong, you broke the law, and you very well could be charged with child molestation and/or statutory rape.
Next time THINK before you have sex. It can and will ruin the lives of many people at such young ages.
what were you expecting? you had sex with a little girl and she may be pregnant now. but you're trying to say that since she took it out of your pants, it's not your fault? an even though you don't even know for sure if she is pregnant, and if she is you don't even know if she wants an abortion, you're already planning her abortion. if you don't want the sarcastic comments back, don't do stupid things like try to blame this all on her.
I am not blaming anything on anyone, please..
She is not a little girl, maybe shes hasn't been on this planet long enough for her to be classified as a "big girl" but she is quite mature. She works 2 jobs, finishing high school and trying to get a scholarship.
I am planning in the future, what is the problem with doing that? Would you not do the same? Would you not want to create a plan or gain more information on decision you might need to make? If you answered no I question your reasoning and mentality.
I am not going to be responding to any comments that are intended as hostile, if you ask a question I will answer, if you have information that would be deemed helpful or useful.. please don't be shy.
Most of us are parents...many of us have young girls, so this hits close to the heart. I'm not apologizing for our remarks, but rather justifying them.
When you had intercourse with this girl, you KNEW that it was wrong, yet you claim to have a good head on your shoulders.
Yes, if she is pregnant, you face criminal charges. Her parents do not necessarily have to report it. Here in the states, when I have a minor that comes in pregnant from someone significantly older than her (above the legal age of consent), it is my duty to report that person. If I don't, I could face criminal charges.
I don't think you comprehend the severity of the situation you might be in.
Unfortunately you think our responses are childish, but that's because you don't want to hear the truth.
The truth of the matter is that you were wrong, you broke the law, and you very well could be charged with child molestation and/or statutory rape.
Next time THINK before you have sex. It can and will ruin the lives of many people at such young ages.
In Canada the age of consent was only changed from 14 to 16 last year. I was un-aware of this, I only found out that it was changed after I did my homework.
And yes I understand most of you can put yourself in this position, and I appreciate your comments more so then anyone Else's as your signature states that you are a registered nurse.
guess, what, 15 is still a child. she is not, and will not be for some time, a legal adult. that makes her a child.
there's a difference between planning for the future and freaking out for no good reason.
let's really talk about reasoning.
reasons not to plan an abortion yet:
1) she still doesn't know if she's actually pregnant.
2) you don't know if she actually wants an abortion, if she does in fact turn out to be pregnant.
and when you say things like she's the one harvesting and creating the baby...i didn't take my penis out, she did...yeah, it sounds like you are blaming her.
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