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I have been dating this girl who is 16 years old, while I am 18 years old. I am currently in college while she is in grade 11 highschool. We have been dating for more then a year now and I am just wondering about a few things.
I have had some trouble with her flirting with other guys in the past, she has gotten better but I notice she still has some slip ups and it hurts me. I was on facebook a little while ago and I was just looking at one of her pages and she left a comment on one of her "Summer flings" pictures. It read "hey hottie! how are you and (insert her name) I miss you <3." Supposedly her summer fling (before she met me) just broke up with his gf and she was just being nice. But I have been trouble getting over it, is something wrong with me?
Just recently some guy in her class asked her to come over to his house and watch a movie with him. She said yes because he is supposedly a shy, awkward dude and he got the nerve to ask her. I was pissed off when I heard this from her, I immediately told her that I was uncomfortable with this and she said "I don`t have to go if you don't want me to." I felt bad but I was still mad that she actually said yes.
She is working two jobs and she has highschool to deal with while I am working one job and have college to deal with. We don't see each other very much, we didn't even see each other over the long weekend (thanksgiving weekend.. I am Canadian). We had plans for tomorrow but she canceled them to go with her friend to her friends grandparents house for Thanksgiving. She said "I already had the plans laid out and you can't cancel them." Unfortunately she has canceled our plans before and did today to see her friend.
I don't know what to think about this situation, am I over reacting? It seems like everything even the small things tick me off and I get mad at her. I don't know why. I love her very much, I would just like an opinion on how I should be going about all this.
You are over-reacting like crazy. You think I raped the girl? We have been dating for more then a year, I was 17 and she was 15 when we had sex.
You think I should be prosicuted to the fullest because I had sex with my girlfriend although she was 3 months short of the allowed age to engage in intercourse?
Please, tell me.. why would I deserve such a punishment?
You are over-reacting like crazy. You think I raped the girl? We have been dating for more then a year, I was 17 and she was 15 when we had sex.
You think I should be prosicuted to the fullest because I had sex with my girlfriend although she was 3 months short of the allowed age to engage in intercourse?
Please, tell me.. why would I deserve such a punishment?
Some guy at my girlfriends school is constantly asking her to have sex with him and to do other sexually oriented activities. He even asked her infront of me at a school football game. I told him to watch his mouth or I would be fixing it for him and left with my girlfriend.
I am not sure what to do about this dude? My girlfriend would never cheat so I am not worried about that.. but she has told me numerous times that he is creepy and obsessive.
Do I go to the cops? Do I handle it myself? Right now I feel like driving over to his house and smashing him up. I have anger management so perhaps my testosterone is getting the best of me.
YOU do nothing except tell him to shut up next time he says something in front of you. your gf needs to be the one to take steps to protect herself. since this seems to be happening at school, she should be reporting his behavior to school administrators. if that gets her no where then she shoul most definitely go to the police. my high school had a resource officer, so when me or my friends would have issues with guys, the vice principal would call the officer in so there was never any need for us to go outside the school for anything.
JC is right..let her (not you) tell the school administrators and then walk away. Be the bigger man in this situation as the guy is clearly a slime-ball. Never resort to violence because some idiot can't keep his mouth shut. One person in jail is always better than two in this case.
Dont go doing anything that would earn you an asault charge. Fighting him wouldnt solve anything. It could even make your girlfriend wonder if your anger issues will affect your relationship at some point. Keep your cool.
Yes, this is her place to stop this creap from bothering her.
I read your threads in the Teen Forum. Have you sat down and discussed your concerns with her.
I think there may be more to your reaction than just this guy being a creep. How much are you concerned that her actions and dress contribute to getting that type of reaction? Yes, those feelings and frustrations do have impact on the rest of your interactions especially when it comes to something that hits one of those nerve endings.
The solution to this person is for HER to report him to officials, school or otherwise. Even at 15 she has to be able to stand up for herself when it comes to sexual harassment. You won't always be around when she has to deal with creeps.
This guy is trying to get a rise out of you. He is being a complete butt-dart. Don't play his silly games. He obviously has no chance, and is in the "creep zone". I would advise your girl to report it to the school authorities, and then step back and let her handle it. Keep your cool, don't get physical. That's what the guy wants. Just ignore him, and tell him to stay in line if he disrespects your girlfriend again. However, I would give your girlfriend the chance to handle it for herself.
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