my mom doesnt like me. she really doesnt i swear by it. when i was little she would put me down and treat my sister better than me. when i was 12 and my sister 14 she forgot to get me birthday present [[my sister and i have the same birthday]] and just recently she kicked me out of the house because she cant handle me and made me leave my high school in the middle of the year and enrolled into a new school at my dads house in a new down and county and she never calls me emails me or returns my calls to her its been a year and ive talked to her voicemail more than i've talked to her.

i;ve recently strived in school and got a great gpa
3.28
which is amazing for me.
i called her 4 times and left a voicemail and 1 email.
she wont return my calls.
i called my sister and she said she was at her boyfriends house [[as always]]


why does she hate me like she does?
if my sister called she would have answered


i get the same advice in the say way.


your mom doesnt hate you she just wants you to be better and do better
im sure your over exxagerating this. a mother loves her child.

she didnt "kick you out" she "sent you away"
it's ok i'm proud of you [[those with sympathy]]

justcurious55

i'm sorry. i don't really have any advice though. some people are just ****** parents. unfortunately, there's probably nothing you can do. because it's not your fault that your mother is the way she is. keep reaching out to her when you feel like it, but hope for the best and expect the worst, it helps from feeling too disappointed if things don't work out, at least a little bit.

simoneaugie

My mom hated me. From the time I began puberty. No birthday presents, sent me away, refused to answer my calls...My mom was angry at the whole world because she hadn't been born male. Many women are caught in this trap.

Now that we are both old, she calls me almost every day. She says that she was just angry that she could no longer control me when I became a teen. However, I still hate birthdays because of her.

As a mom myself, oh yes, sometimes I wish the kids would just disappear sometimes. I forget their birthdays and ignore phone calls. Mom taught me well. And, I am way screwed up. So I tell my children that I am screwed up and my distancing myself from them is in no way their fault. But the distance still hurts them.

Don't grow up to be a mom like ours, a mom like me. Rise above the anger and feelings of abandonment. Get counselling. Talk to your friends about it. Scream and rip up toys that are set aside for that purpose. When the time is right, talk to your mom about it. You may not get any satisfaction there though.

Be better than the way you were raised. Forgive your mom. But, most of all, forgive yourself. You are a wonderful human being. Heal yourself and move on to do better things for your own children. Women are portrayed as madonnas who could not possibly hate their children. Not always true.

sylvan_1998

Okay, I totally understand. I am more than twice your age and I still struggle with the same issues. My mother visits one of my siblings more than 5 times to one and it is all the same distances, prices, trouble, etc. She has grandchildren with all of us other siblings she is missing out on.

The key here....hard one to accept....is to accept her for what she can offer. She loves you, somewhere somehow, she does. However, her actions are hurtful and if you let them negatively affect you, her actions are harmful. But you can not control her actions. You can only control how you react to them. You can only control how much power you give to her by controlling how her inattentiveness affects you.

Great on the grades. Get into college. (Be prepared one day she will take credit for this...I sent her off so she would better herself) Be the best YOU can be reguardless of how she is. There are a multitude of reasons this may be happening and 99.9% have absolutely nothing to do with you. They are all part of her baggage.

Remember, you control how hurtful she is to you. And finally one last thought....as you go through life, people treat you the way you demand to be treated. If you dont accept bad behaviour, it will stop. The person will either exit your life or change.

O_Troubles

some parents aret ment to be parents and there only human if ur mom is a loser and like ur sister more then have the best life you can and when u cure cancer or have a wedding and she decides she wants in now, tell her to f*** off and be soo smug and happy about your life... if she doesnt want to work things out or answer your calls you cant do much but mabie when your older try to re kindle ur relationship if she doesnt want one then screw her u cant wait on her to grow up and be a real parent

Lo02

i wish it didnt hurt like it does i have done so much to get get attention and she never notices i call her and if she answers she says hello as if she were disgusted and i say oh why hello i almost forgot what you sounded like she yells at me and complains about life and how she doesnt need "s***" from me when all i say is hello i have 2 brothers [[younger]] 1 sister [[older]] me and brother against the world my older sister and one of my brothers are treated as royalty she gets rid of them whenever possible and leaves with every chance she gets.

if i end things with i will lose too much.
ill lose my brothers because she wont let me over the house to see them
ill lose my sister because she wont ever make the effort to come see me

and ill lose my other half of me that she holds

sometimes i start crying for no reason because im just emotionally drained from having to put up with this since i was 3.

O_Troubles

http://www.kidshelp.com.au/template/standard.aspx?s=141 hunni non of us are there we could never know the whole story talk to someone mabie even get family counceling with your mom i think ur gonna say "if i asked her she would say no" but if she does then u really dont want to be in contact with her ok

justcurious55

even if you're mom won't go to counseling with you, you should still at least consider it for yourself. a lot of times it can really help to have someone you can open up to like that.
idk that i agree with totally ending the relationship. at least not at this point. but i think you need to learn to accept it for what it is, and thats not much. and that's something that's going to be hard to accept. but i think a counselor would be able to help you deal with that pain.
and again, it's not your fault. even though it's hurting you, this is your mother's issue. she is the one who's messed up. so keep doing whatever positive things you have been doing to try to get her attention, but start doing them for yourself, not for her. get the good grades because it's awesome to see that report card and be like "oh yeah! I earned that!"