| It is not easy to advice you, because I had a loving mom who stayed with my dad although he was hard to live with sometimes. But I always thought, she should not have done that, she should have gotten divorce. She stayed for the sake of her children. Cancer took her away when she was only around 60 and my dad started dating a few months after her death. It was not easy for me to forgive my dad. But I thought of the good things about my dad and thought I should not judge my dad and mom. Now I am married and have a two year old daughter. I just want you to know that when you grow up, when you get married, you will know that some times life is so hard you cannot make the right decision. You cannot be a good person all the time. I know it is not easy for you to forgive your mom, but I am a mom and I know that she loves you. It must have been very hard for her to give away your brother. It must have been very painful. And you hating her hurt her even more. She must have had a tough situation, maybe she cannot explain it to you yet honey. For now, try to be a little bit understandable, try to see the good things she does, and try to give her a little comfort. She is not doing anything bad to you now, is she? When she did those things she has been in a hard situation, she should not have done so, I agree with you, but if she knows she has been wrong and if she is nice now, she probably could not have helped it. If you forgive her, then maybe you can be friends together and she explains more about what happened and may be you will see her point. I do not know your mom, but I know it is very difficult to be a mom. May be you find your brother one day and may be you will all live together happily. Hating her does not make anything better, does it? It is better for your own sake to empty your heart from hatred and forgive her. Think to yourself that you have not been in her shoes so why should you judge her? |