Hey... Well in advance i wan to thank everyone who gave me good advice ... ok its like this i like this girl for a year... than end up i stopped liking her for like 2 months but out of no where she Text messages me n after a while we stop text messaging than same thing happens again she text messages me again n i fall for her.... now i reli cant stop liking her eventhought i know she likes a guy i just cant stop forgetting about her... I know it sounds stupid but just reli like her... she just has a way to make me feel great... Well sorry if my question sounds lame o something.. thanks again all!

JBeaucaire

You're not lame, you're just inexperienced. You're going to go through this kind of thing a LOT over the years. You'll get better at slotting these "yo-yo-like" feelings into an appopriate place and not letting them get you so easily.

A girl has to actually EARN your heart. Your heart will disagree, it will like whomever it wants whenever it wants and won't ask your permission. It will not require much in return, the other party may not even know you exist at all and your heart will just "be in love" all on its own. It's very irritating.

But that doesn't change the fact that you need to "pursue" love in the real world. Your heart can point out targets it is interested in, but you have to keep it all in check with your good sense. You have to stay calm through it all.

So, this is going to take some time to learn.

Meanwhile, when you're interested in any girl, this girl or whomever, you let them know. That simple. You don't cheat with them or tempt them to cheat, but you let them know you're interested in them and if they ever find themselves unattached, you'd love to go out with them sometime.

Simple enough. Keep it simple.

Iliveforsoccer

it must mean you really like her if you can't stop thinking about her

blacksinz

Iliveforsoccer i do like her... i reli like her... everyday see her in school im happy tat i can see her but also sad tat i can never have her... i just reli wan know how she feels about me... i reli treasure our friendship n tats why i don wan spoil it...

Chery

This may be the first time you feel this way, but it won't be the last. We all have gone through this emotional roller-coaster and it takes time to get used to. It's a normal stage in your life right now...so don't fret it, just ride with it as best as you can. With practice and patience, you will be able to control yourself and not mess up too much. Try not to act needy and enjoy just friendship if that's what she offers right now - it's better than totally doing without her. Honestly, girls are just as insecure and confused at this age too.

Just relax and enjoy this new chapter in your life. And as JB said, come talk to us any time you get anxious and have more questions.

good luck dear.