heres the thing, ive been with my girlfriend for about two months now and its been a great time but just recently about a month ago i lost three family members in a strange freak accident. that wasnt all. now my cousins in a comma, and my parents are about to get divorced after an 18 year marriage. just when i thought things couldnt get any worse, my girlfriend breaks up with me, deciding that she still loves her ex. my life is completely shattering around me. i dont no wat to do. will somebody help me....?
I think first thing, is make sure you have a good friend base, and get out as much as you can with them. Going out helps depression to no extent.
Secondly speak to a doctor about all of these problems, and someone to talk to will ease the strain.
Third, man, that is completly, i dont know, i feel very sorry for you, but if I was you, i would need to talk to a doctor, and cry my eyes out. So, i suggest you do that, but remember that you have done nothing wrong, and none of it is personal. Sometimes **** happens all in one go. In 5 years time, things will be normal, and you will be a much stronger person. But in the mean time, go out, have as much fun to take your mind of things as you can, go talk to someone, and remind your self its not your fault!
The bad things that happen to us in our life are the fertilizer that makes us grow. Your only responsibility to yourself is to not go completely off the deep end and get yourself in trouble by doing something you will always regret. Get someone to confide in and do not turn to drugs or alcohol. They will only intensify your pain. When it all passes, life will be sweeter than it has ever been. I know that from experiance. Just take care of yourself by being active with positive pursuits and people. Good luck!
Im so sorry to hear all of this.
I believe in the saying - its never rains it pours.
2 years i ago lost 3 family members in a space of 6 months. 1 of them was my dear dad.
Life is full surprises and these things happen to the best of us.
When i went through my trauma i thought the sun will never shine back in my life, i thought that was the end for me. People used to tell me time is a healer and i hated it when people said that because back then i thought it wasnt true. Time would never heal the pain im feeling.
Now i realise they were right. As sad as it sounds, i believe when an individual goes through horrific experiences they turn out to be stronger people in the end.
Im afraid i cant really help you, no one can. You have to help yourself.
I would make an appoitment with a physcologist at your earliest, and talk to this doctor about all this trauma in your life, and it will help day by day get through it. Crying is good too and dont be ashamed to cry, if you keep it all bottled up it will explode when you least expect it to.
Meet up with close friends, and try keep yourself as busy as possible dont seclude yourself, please.
We are here if you if you wanna talk, we all have our ears open
Put one foot in front of the other, and chant when necessary ... this too shall pass, this too shall pass. Trudge even.
Talk to anyone you trust, holding things in is bad for humans. If you are talking to your parents, offer some support even, they may need it and it will lift you a bit.
Recall the hard things in your past that turned out for the better. I like to think all the red lights I hit going home is to save me from the accident I was about to have. Not that your stuff is so lightweight, okay?
Perspective matters so try not to be looking down all the time. Go outside, and look at the sky. Remind yourself that you count, and you will survive.
Thanks for posting, and I hope this helps, if only a little.
You've made a step forward and reached out to us - and I'm glad you did. It's so easy to turn 'introtverted' in times like this - and it can take a long time getting out of it.
You do need a period of mourning, and also healing. But, please don't do it alone. If there is a bereavement center in your area, or a church, go there and gain a little support from those that will understand what you are going thru.
Therapy is also helpful, but don't let anyone prescribe antidepressants just yet. They can do just as much harm as good. And if you were generally healthy before all this happened, you don't want to get used to medication the rest of your life - that's a crutch.
Stay with us, and just let it all out any time, we'll be here for you.
Sorry to hear about your current situation. Suggest that you make a list of resources that you have that you can count on and what you can count on them for....support, love, meals. Then use those resources to help get along in this tough time. There is no doubt that it is the hardest to "reach out" when you yourself are down..but - its also what you need/must do. There is no reason for you to go this alone. Youve made a great step in coming here....Use the resources and also seek some counseling...and lastly..from George Harrison.."all things must pass"....hang in there....jonB
just find something that will get you from doing nothing...when you do nothing you just think about how bad things are. I suggest go to church or try coping with some close friends.
i partly dissagree with what some others suggest above...seeing a doctor or a phsyciatrist will not automatically make things better because the thing is: they dont REALLY care about you. You are one of the 10 patients they will see today. A real friend will help patch up more than a doctor can do in months. they are the ones that care about you; they love you.
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