okay so the past school year i have been sooo stressed out me and my mom have been fighting alot and like right now we are not talking. i have been missing my dad alot lately. my boyfriend says some stuff that stresses me out and im always freaking out that he is leaving me and it kills me cuz ive been hurt so so much and then my friends one of my best friends got into the wrong crowed this year she is only 14 and shee gets drunk and high every weekend and some mornings shes had sex 3 times and she tried to killherself twice by over dosing on pills and now she has started cutting again and im just so scared that something is going to happen to her and i dunno just alot of has been going on in my life lately and i honestly cant take it anymore and im not sure how to get ride of this and what i should do about my friend any ideas please i could use them badly???

imation

well before you start the road to recovery, take some time out to step back and have a look at things.
i suggest you grab a friend, not one who will stress you out by talking about everyone, just someone who you can chat to and have fun with, go to a shopping centre and find somewhere that you can pay them to give you a massage and just lay there wil your friend being pampered and chatting, itll help you relax trust me

bluerose

I'm sorry you and your mum are not talking but you really need to talk to her, tell her how worried you are about your friend. No need at this point to give your friends name just ask your mum for some advice on how to deal with her. And try to get on better terms with your mum, you never know when you might need her help. If it is really too difficult to talk to your mum try to find another grown up that you trust and ask their advice. All this going on with your friend is more than you should have to deal with alone. Can your boyfriend help? You have too much on your plate at the moment, you really need someone to talk to.

kp2171

first, a bf isnt going to save you. i know its easier to lean on someone, and the affection can be a boost, but if hes driving you more mad than not, sometimes you need to be alone.

second, im not saying dont try to help people, but realize you are your first priority. some people dont want to be saved, and some people make it their mission to try to be saved. your friend certainly is looking for help or attention or both. just remember, he choices are hers.

third, you and your mother might go round and round for a few years. its a tough time for you, and its a tough time for her. you know you miss her. she misses you too. after all the noise and nonsense she is there for you, even if its not in the way you want or expect. she is there for you.

heres the thing. the next few years of your life are just crazy. demanding, exciting, maddening, frustrating, invigorating, confusing. its the truth. have more faith in yourself. one foot in front of the other. things do get clearer in time. it takes time to really get your footing under you sometimes.

i promise you, you just need to hang in there. i fyou need to talk to your friend about her problems, do it. if you need to talk to someone else about her, do it. if you need to tell your bf to back off, do it.

i know, i know... not that easy. but is it easier to let it eat you up inside? remember, you are your priority. you cannot save your friend and you cannot make your bf happy. you can make you happy. you can save yourself. you can try to help them, but only they can decide what they want. some people just dont want to be happy.

i think you do.

cutie08

okay so here lately i have just been really stressed out
i mean ive got stupid high school all the homework trying to keep my good grades
friends and trying to help a few that have gotten in with the bad crowed
and my parents are stressing me out
and the fact that my boyfried keeps thinking im going to cheat on him
and i would never
the fact that my whole family is in florida for christmas this year
to see my grandparents and so me and my mom are not going to have a real christmas and its the first year that my whole family is not going to be together this year and i dunno just everthing is stressing me out lately and i just feel like dyeing grr someone please help me find a way to get rid of this stress or at least some of it

oh-wise-wun

cutie08

i have really really bad stress problems and it is getting out of control.
i am always crying about little things that ppl think are little but they end up being a big deal to me.
and i always screem and stuff
and i dunno
but all day long at school i stress out about stuff for when i get home
and im jus so sick of always being stressed out and crying
and i already went to the doctors for it to see if they could put me on some sress pills
and they wont cuz they said that i dont need them
when really i do
what should i do?
i just go on this stressed out like i am now??

please help me asap im going crazy

platanoyatlanta

Exercise And Taking Baths Will Help In Your Stress And About Crying I Don't Know What To Tell You

major_soccer_freak

Yes adding on exercising it is a very good way to relive stress, take a walk or go for a jog/run to clear your mind, try to find a hobby you like doing (like reading or a game) and whenever you are stressed go to it and work on it. Try to keep your mind thinking about whatever your doing so it gets your mind focused on that instead of whatever your stressing over. Sometimes it is good to cry, sometimes you just need a "good cry" to cleans your mind.

-Emotional tears are very different from tears you get when you cut an onion. Cry when you need to alone not around people and it is a very good way to relive sadness or stress.

Good luck! put a smile on.

major_soccer_freak

Everyone has problems with stress these days everything is just rush rush get your homework finished, do a test finish a quiz sometimes you just need a break from it all. Try finding a hobby or do something you like doing every once and a while whenever you feel overwhelmed with everything take a break. Good luck!