Im gay and i fancy my best friend

Reecetard · #1 Aug 19, 2007, 06:29 AM

Hi, i recently turned 15 but ive known im gay for bout 3 years now. my life is very complicated yet simple in the eyes of the people around me. being this young and gay and in the closet is so hard and people just dont understand how hard it is. anyway... i have 2 similar problems.. 1. i have a male and female friend who are going out with eachother, they are both my best friends and i fancy the male. i want to tell the female of the relationship cos i feel we have a very strong bond of trust and stuff, but im scared shell think i fancy her bofriend, WHICH I DO! 2. my other best friend i think might be gay, but i darent ask him and i darent tel him i am cos im scared. but i think he will un derstand hes got the best personality and hes so fit . wht shall i do??

Simplythebest · Sep 20, 2007, 11:04 AM

okay, i have had the exact same problem, i am bi and 20. My best friend had a girlfriend and i also think he might of been gay. I know exactly what your going through its hard traumatic nobody understands you. I left him alone, there will be plenty of more boyfriends later in life. Friendship is very important and unless you want to jepordise it i'd leave him alone. I do in some ways regret it but life goes on find new people. The reason i left him alone was because i didn't want to lose him i had a big crush on him but i wanted him to be happy and if thats what it takes i left. i still keep close contact with him and at the moment i have wanted to tell him but all i can do is hold back what i have for him.

Rebel1990 · Sep 24, 2007, 02:50 PM

I'm straight and i have to say this. theres a line of limitation between gay and straight friends. you can have a crush on a straight guy but what you shouldn't do is try to hit on him, make him feel awkward and may not wanna be your friend, and another is don't try anything on him sexually. leave the man straight lol because if thats what he really is thats what he'll stay. couple of my friends at school are gay, there great friends but the respect the boundary of friendship and me being straight. its the LINE you shouldn't cross.



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