I'm 18 and I want to leave home but parents won't let me. What to do?

JudyKayTee · Jan 28, 2012, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ttaayylloorr18

again, i have an attitude for good reason. He earned all the money his family has. He professionally raced the motorcycles and made millions. thank you very much. His dad is 70 years old and retired he can not work. so he does not mooch off of anyone. he takes care of his disabled dad. that is what his job is. He's entering the army. he has a life. and i have my own. i have a better grasp on reality than my dad does thats for sure. there's a difference between being protective and being emotionally abusive and controlling. if i dont like the situation i will remove myself from the situation. so YOU drop the attitude since you are not even answering my question.

So who is taking care of Dad while the boyfriend is in the military police?

But, yes, move out. If your father attempts to stop you, call the Police. Expect your father to claim a LOT of what you are taking with you. The Police won't help with your belongings so then you'll go to Court and sue to get your belongings back.

But you'll be on your own.

I'd like to know more about making millions racing motorcycles. As I said - I have a connection.

Wondergirl · Jan 28, 2012, 02:31 PM

You had said, "I know I can move. [i]f my dad barricades me or holds me in the house can he be in any legal trouble?"

You're 18. You leave home. (It's legal in your state.) Why would he get into legal trouble?

jenniepepsi · Jan 28, 2012, 02:36 PM

WG, i think she is asking, if she DOES try to leave, and her father physically restrains her and prevents her leaving, can he be in trouble.

and i dont automatically assume that her father wouldnt do that, my own parents frequently behaved that way.

Wondergirl · Jan 28, 2012, 02:54 PM

Jen, why does he have to know she's leaving? Why can't she just leave without announcing the fact?

jenniepepsi · Jan 28, 2012, 03:05 PM

oh i agree. i think she should quietly pack her bags, and move out over night.

but she is still afraid. i was terrified for years that my parents would take my daughter away from me, even though i was 25, KNEW they could not, and knew that they would be arrested if they tried. it made no difference, the fear was still there.

smoothy · Jan 28, 2012, 03:30 PM

Of course...you might find the locks changed afterwards (I would change them)...But you are an adult and on your own. You don't NEED to come back. And being an adult, you wouldn't be entitled to come back. One of those things that go with being an adult.

ScottGem · Jan 28, 2012, 04:50 PM

If he does try to prevent you from leaving, then that could be considered unlawful detainment. That could get him in legal trouble.

So the question is why make it a confrontation? I'm assuming your father works. So while's he's at work, you pack up and leave. If you have to rent a trailer or U-Haul (TM), then do so. Because, based on what you have said, he's unlikely to let you back. Also, don't take anything that you can't prove belongs to you. Because he may charge you with theft.

That being said I do have to wonder at the question. It sounds to me like you would like to get him in trouble and are looking to deliberately cause a confrontation. I would strongly advise against that as it will open a can of worms you probably don't want opened.

I still have misgivings about your veracity. I strongly suspect you made up a lot of what you told us to to justify yourself.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 28, 2012, 07:07 PM

Yes, one of my boys ( leaving on less than good terms) discovered, he really owned nothing.
I had bought the bedroom set, his TV and so on, he really owned nothing, He got his clothes in plastic trash bags.

The OP goes out, comes and goes, they are not chained to the wall. They can walk out and leave the house anytime they want.

So what do you own in the house, you will want to take? Just what you earned the money for and bought or what boyfriend bought you

smoothy · Jan 28, 2012, 07:14 PM

Yep......she's got a seriously important life lesson to learn about not burning any bridges. But I guess its one she's got to learn the hard way since she's not listening to anyone that knows better than she does.

jenniepepsi · Jan 28, 2012, 09:52 PM

We ALL learn from our own mistakes. thats how humans grow and mature. by living live, and making mistakes and learning from them.

It is very difficult to learn anything from listening to others mistakes. most of the time it is important for a young adult to make those mistakes themselves, and learn and grow from them.

I'm 18 and I want to leave home but parents won't let me. What to do?

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