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I'm 11 dating a 15 yr old

Asked May 1, 2012, 06:16 PM — 26 Answers
im 11 dating a 15 year old we have been dating for about 7 months now and he is very sweet and i really like him and we dnt have any problems do u think its bad?

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tessa0987 Posts: 31, Reputation: 5
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#21

May 27, 2012, 04:24 PM
okay so all you people saying this is wrong and what not havent been in love then. love is love. who gives a of age .

To the girl who asked this: its not wrong dont let people bring you down. love is love no one can stop it . just remmeber ALL guys have a penis and there always going to think about sex but as long as you dont give in or him persure you , i think its fine. if he ever brings it up just tell him that that would hurt the relationship that you two have . Please dont let people bring you down dont let them say you cant love and you dont know twhat love is , every girl has love either if its to a kitty cat (: . or a guy but they most think and be careful as long as your mature i think its fine . im kinda in the same situation . but im older then you. please make sure your parnets dont find out.. it sucks .. bad . i hope you two last forever <<3 hope i helped (: bye
Fr_Chuck (May 28, 2012 01:59 PM): too young to know what danger there is   Source:common knowledge
C0bra_M3nace (May 30, 2012 11:38 AM): There is a big difference between love and lust. Only age and maturity can tell the difference.   Source:Life Experience.
Alty (May 30, 2012 12:53 PM): This advice is not only horrible, but illegal. A child must have his/her parents permission to date. Hiding it is horrible advice.   Source:Common knowlege, decency, and maturity.
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#22

May 27, 2012, 04:29 PM
Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.

Darnit! I agree with Tal.

I have children close in age to you. I have a 9 year old daughter that is not allowed to date, nor is she interested, like all 9 years olds I know, she thinks boys are icky, which is why I'm not buying your story of dating at 9 years of age for 3 years. I also have a 13 year old. He is allowed to go on group dates, but not allowed to date one on one, because he's too young. He has yet to go on a group date. He's been asked, but he's not ready, according to him.

I love my kids, they're good kids, and I can tell you right now, they lie to me. In fact, I'm sure they lie to me every single day. "yes I did my homework" (no they didn't!), "I just took the dog out" (3 hours ago), "I did not yell at my brother/sister" (I heard you), "I did clean up my dishes" (they're on the table), "I always empty the dishwasher" (I did it for the last week), "I'll clean my room tomorrow" (that's what you've been saying for the last month).

As soon as someone says "I never lie", that's a lie. There's not one person on the face of this Earth that doesn't lie. It may not be a huge lie, but we all lie. You're lying to your parents right now. You didn't tell them that you got your first period. That's a lie.
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May 27, 2012, 04:31 PM


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Originally Posted by tessa0987 View Post
: okay so all you people saying this is wrong and what not havent been in love then. love is love. who gives a of age .

... but im older then you. please make sure your parnets dont find out.. it sucks .. bad . i hope you two last forever <<3 hope i helped (: bye
No love is NOT love. Loving a pet is different from loving a person. And there are different levels of love. Preteens crushes are unlikely to be true and lasting love.

And yes age matters, because it does take maturity and experience to know how to deal with the emotions of romantic relationships.

Finally, do not even think of advising a child to sneak around behind their parents. Parents are there to help and protect. If you have to sneak around behind your parent's backs then there is something very wrong. If you are really in love, you should be able to be proud of it, not hide it.

sorry tessa but your advice here is very bad.
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May 28, 2012, 01:18 PM
This is coming from a 14 year old girl who knows ho the mind of a 15 year old boy works, they change there minds about who they want to be with in 5 minutes. If your really sure this boy loves you then there's nothing wrong with that. When I was eleven i remember what it as like when you liked someone and if your dating a 15 year old and your heart skips a beat when you see him make sure he feels the same way before you get your heart broken. One of my best friends did aand i never want to see somehing like that happen to anyone else!
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May 28, 2012, 03:32 PM
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This is coming from a 14 year old girl who knows ho the mind of a 15 year old boy works, they change there minds about who they want to be with in 5 minutes. If your really sure this boy loves you then there's nothing wrong with that. When I was eleven i remember what it as like when you liked someone and if your dating a 15 year old and your heart skips a beat when you see him make sure he feels the same way before you get your heart broken. One of my best friends did aand i never want to see somehing like that happen to anyone else!
The thing that all of the young people answering this question are forgetting, is that this isn't up to the 11 year old child.

At 11 she needs her parents permission to date anyone. If she doesn't have her parents permission, and she dates this guy, that 15 year old boy she loves so much is breaking the law.

The boy won't just get a slap on the wrist and a warning. If he so much as kisses her, or has any sexual contact with her (and sexual contact isn't just sex), he could go to jail, and be labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life. This could ruin his life!

So, for all the kids saying that it's okay. It really isn't! I know that at 14 you think you've learned so much about life, but believe me, you have no clue. I'm not being mean, it just is what it is. At 14 you don't have the life experience, or the maturity, to know what's good for yourself, much less giving illegal advice to an 11 year old child.
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May 30, 2012, 12:39 AM
Look sweetie, I'm a 15 yr old girl and fighting off guys my age, they only have one thing on there mind and you are way to young to worry about it, ditch that loser and date someone your age
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May 30, 2012, 10:43 AM
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Look sweetie, I'm a 15 yr old girl and fighting off guys my age, they only have one thing on there mind and you are way to young to worry about it, ditch that loser and date someone your age
I have to point this out, yet again. The poster is 11 years old. It's not her choice whether to date or not, even if it is someone her age. At 11 she needs her parents permission to date anyone.
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