how to stop regretting after having sex for the first time

tickle · Jun 21, 2012, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by deadchild

Older than me and i just know that im ready to take care of a child

Are you ready financially to care for a baby? Is there insurance in place to pay for delivery and hospital care. You may think you are able, but at 13 may not be physically ready.

deadchild · Jun 21, 2012, 10:53 AM

i have $600 in a bank account and i have insuranc...and i have over $4000 worth of baby items furniture,clothes,bottles,bibs,etc

Wondergirl · Jun 21, 2012, 10:59 AM

Health insurance on your own or under your parents' name?

ScottGem · Jun 21, 2012, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by deadchild

i have $600 in a bank account and i have insuranc...and i have over $4000 worth of baby items furniture,clothes,bottles,bibs,etc

Girl, I really hate to yell at you but you need to wake up and smell the coffee. You haven't a clue what you are doing.

1) At 13 your body may not be developed enough to give birth. This means there could be serious complications in delivering this child for both you and the child. You could die giving birth. It is a very real risk

2) Depending on where you live your doctor may be required to inform your parents of your pregnancy. While you control what you do with the child, your parents are financially responsible for you.

3) It is estimated that it costs about $15,000 for the first year of a baby's life and over $250,000 until they reach 18. That $15,000 figure does not include the costs of giving birth, which can be up to $10,000. So your $600 with be gone in the first month or two on formula and diapers! And even if you have crib and some clothes and equipment, they may be too old for current standards. And you will need so much more.

4) Of course your cousin doesn't want you to tell anyone. He is afraid of going to jail. He RAPED you. It doesn't matter whether you consented or not, you are under legal age so its RAPE!

Bottom line is you need to tell your parents NOW! You need to get examined by a doctor NOW! If you are pregnant, you need to do it NOW for the sake of the baby's health. Please pay attention to the advice we are giving, we care about you and more, we care about this baby you are trying to bring into the world. GET HELP NOW!

Wondergirl · Jun 21, 2012, 11:00 AM

Where are you storing all this baby stuff so your parents don't see it?

ScottGem · Jun 21, 2012, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Where are you storing all this baby stuff so your parents don't see it?

I suspect its her baby stuff from when she was a baby or maybe a younger sibling. If its hers, much of it will be out of date and unusable.

Homegirl 50 · Jun 21, 2012, 11:17 AM

I think it is stored in her mind, or this adult (who she claims is a friend of the family and will help her until she is ready to tell fer family) has things.
I wonder if the adult who is helping her knows the father is her 17 year old cousin.

C0bra_M3nace · Jun 21, 2012, 11:25 AM

Oh my god, this kid is in for the rudest awakening anyone could ever have. Her father will find out who the father is, because he will DEMAND to know. Once he finds out, your whole family tree is going to be shaking so hard the leaves of the one beside it are going to fall off, and whether you like it or not, your cousin will be going to jail.

A 13 year old saying she can raise a child? Give me a break. ScottGem, your wrote the words right out of my mouth, excellent post I wish I could thumb that one up about 20 times, but of course...

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to ScottGem again.

All I have to say, is good luck young one, and for your sake I hope you're not pregnant and you learn a valuable lesson from this. I also hope that 17 year old goes to jail, so he can learn a valuable lesson aswell.

Tallyman29 · Jun 21, 2012, 12:06 PM

Baby Cost Calculator | Tools | BabyCenter

Here's a good way to see how far that 600 will get you.

ScottGem · Jun 21, 2012, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

Her father will find out who the father is, because he will DEMAND to know.

I disagree with this. The father can't compel her to tell. But the law may, especially if she wants to keep the child. The courts will say, if she doesn't tell who the father is, they will take the child away. Or they will order DNA testing for every male she has been in contact with around the possible time of conception if she doesn't tell. If she thinks she can keep this a secret, she is fooling herself. But then that seems to be par for the course.

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