how do you get over a crush?

lost in my little head · #1 Aug 20, 2007, 02:24 PM

Well last school year i started getting a crush on this guy. We talked a tid bit but i always got so nervous i backed out of conversations with him with really simple responses. I thought that having a summer vacation would give me more than enough time to get over him. But now that the new school year has started i think that i still have some feelings for him. I just want to get over it. I don't want to have the same problem like I did in grade school where i had a crush on this other guy for over three years.

girl111 · Aug 20, 2007, 02:47 PM

Hey think about it was way, Its a crush your not in Love with this guy, become friends with him like really good friends the crush will leave cause than you will just think of this guy as one of the guys not some hottie. Dont dwell over it find a new crush.

TrixieBelle · Aug 24, 2007, 12:39 AM

I agree.
Find a new crush.
OR you could do what i always do when i wanna stop liking someone.
I focus on their bad traits.
Like, if they make fun of people, or if they cheat, or if they just plain do something i cant stand.

kitten94515 · Jan 30, 2008, 05:12 PM

that doesnt always help me.
i tried finding my crushs bad qualities, which he has alot of
and nothing happened.
why dont u talk to him about it?

lost in my little head · Jan 31, 2008, 02:19 PM

Well I haven't updated this in about six months so here's how the crush scenario is right now. I still like him, but I can't do anything about it. He is now dating one of my friends but were not BFF's or anything. Before he did start dating her though I heard him talking to a friend asking for advice on which girl he should go with because he knew that my friend liked him but he didn't know if the other girl did and I'm sure it is me because I catch him looking at me several times everytime we are around each other. I don't think this is a crush or obsession. I still hang out with friends, good at my studies and have an overall enjoyable time. It's I just can't let it go for some reason. I have had a crush on a couple other guys but got over them in a matter of a few days. Even when I had a little crush on the other guys I have always felt more strongly towards him. He's not a jerk, he doesn't cheat, he's funny, nice, smart (not acedemically but has definite potential), and caring. Sure he has some bad qualities but they aren't extreme and everybody has some bad qualities. So focusing on his or anybody else's bad qualities just makes me a judgemental person which I try to avoid being. So if anyone can crack on getting through this tough walnut please let me know.

kitten94515 · Jan 31, 2008, 04:14 PM

crack through this tough walnut.
ha, u crack me up.
but if it was me i would ask him myself if he liked me.
or talk to ur friend about what has been happening.
without snooping ya know.

lost in my little head · Jan 31, 2008, 06:23 PM

The thing is if i do ask him I could be wrong and he doesn't like me and then things would just eventually smooth over, but If I'm right and he does like me then things could turn into a fiasco bigger than the horrible clowns you see at the circus. If I told him and things turned out to be true he would have to tell her and then she would tell some of her friends and that would spred like wildfire through our small school of a little over a hundred students and then I would be treated like because they would all think that I was trying to steal him away from her when really I want her to be happy. I really dislike having drama in my life because I have had enough of it in my lifetime already and I want to steer clear of it as much as I possibly can.

HistorianChick · Feb 1, 2008, 08:29 AM

Honey, you're in high school, drama is a part of life. But, that doesn't mean that you have to be a drama queen! It sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders, that you are a far cry from "Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen," and that you're just really confused about this boy. It seems like you are a smart, well-adjusted teenage girl. I can see your point about not wanting to upset the apple cart by telling him that you're interested.... but, will you ever be able to get over him if you don't?

One cool way to try and re-focus your attention on something else than this guy is to get involved with some kind of outreach program. Ever thought of Big Brother's Big Sisters?? It may sound sappy and unrealistic because you're a high school kid who's really busy, but its a thought. Or, tutoring?? Community theatre? Helping a neighbor? Good Samaritan stuff.

Through all my myriad of relationships (ups and downs and in-betweens) that the best way to get your mind off of some hot guy is to focus on someone else - someone that needs your help... help that only you can give.

Think about it.

Don't think this helped you much in "how do I get over a crush?" but for what its worth!

Good luck, Darlin!

kitten94515 · Feb 2, 2008, 05:00 PM

okay yes i do get it. like all that stuff bout wildfire and yeahhh.
but im not trying to be offenseve and u do sound smart but i think u may be overreacting just a tiny bit.
[:
and who cares what other people think and say?
i mean i forget about it.
but do what u think is the best.