I'm 17 years old i had a couple of boyfriends yeah but then i had some who told me that they loved me or just dont want to be in a long term relationship but i hate that because then its like wasting time i want to know what im getting into you know i dont want to waste time on a 3 or 4 month relationship when i could get better or do better or when theres so many guys out there looking for what im looking for but they how can you tell if they really "Like" You or "Love" You especially for Teens most of the times its Just "Lust" or "Infatuation" How can you tell if its reall if hes really the one for You ...?

Krs

It is a hard question.
At the begining of each relationship you just cant know that answer!
Although saying that when i meet my guy i just knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and the feeling was mutual. I was 19.

But a relatiosnhip starts with Like and Lust. Not Love.
Love grows when you get to know that person through and through which could take months.

curlybenswife

There really is no way of telling theres no flashing lights saying "this is the one" or " together forever".
Im afraid loves quite a game of hit and miss there are many out there that never find there one true love.
Or you could be like me i was with my ex for 11 years and it wasnt until i met ben that i realised cripes this guy really isnt for me but i knew no matter what was thrown at us id be with ben till the end of time.
Its hard but then so is life but you just gotta grab it by the horns and take the chance you never know what tomorrow brings.
I will say one thing though just because he says he loves you doesnt mean you have to go full throttle in all departments i.e sex enjoy your time but dont let things pass you by.

Krs

Totally agree Curlybenswife!
Teenage boys (no offence) use the Love word often enough just to see how naive the girl is in believing him so that she has sex with them!

Love isnt something that happens over night. Or even after 1 or 2 week relationship. Falling in love is another matter.

Be wise!

banana manzana

well i had a boyfriend he was really inlove with me ,but the thing was that i was so scared of getting hurt i wasnt as sweet with as he was with me so he got frustrated so he looked for a friend...the thing was is that as he talked with his friend he started liking her so when i found out by a friend of both of us i was heart broken but she told me that he hadnt done anything with her that they only talked on the phone and that he always said that he loved me to much to be unfaithful to me , so that night it was our anniversary , so my friend told me that he was going to tell me so i waited and talked to him and he told me to remember that he truly loved me but he had met someone , and i was like but you promised you would never hurt me , and he started crying aND TOLD ME THAT WHY COULDNT I BEEN SWEET WITH HIM (but he also said one thing wich i dont understand he said i wasnt his type ).
now after a week that that happened he says that he truly loves me and why dont we get together , and i talked to the and she told me that things didnt work out between them for two reasons one he isnt her type and two he was just o inlove with me ...
but the thing is if he really loved me he wouldnt have done that you dont leave the one you love for the one you like....my question is should i give him another chance????
ooh and he had only a three days of knowing her and in that same week he said that she wasnt right for him .....
so what do you think, does he deserve a second chance or not??????

banana manzana

well i had a boyfriend he was really inlove with me ,but the thing was that i was so scared of getting hurt i wasnt as sweet with as he was with me so he got frustrated so he looked for a friend...the thing was is that as he talked with his friend he started liking her so when i found out by a friend of both of us i was heart broken but she told me that he hadnt done anything with her that they only talked on the phone and that he always said that he loved me to much to be unfaithful to me , so that night it was our anniversary , so my friend told me that he was going to tell me so i waited and talked to him and he told me to remember that he truly loved me but he had met someone , and i was like but you promised you would never hurt me , and he started crying aND TOLD ME THAT WHY COULDNT I BEEN SWEET WITH HIM (but he also said one thing wich i dont understand he said i wasnt his type ).
now after a week that that happened he says that he truly loves me and why dont we get together , and i talked to the and she told me that things didnt work out between them for two reasons one he isnt her type and two he was just o inlove with me ...
but the thing is if he really loved me he wouldnt have done that you dont leave the one you love for the one you like....my question is should i give him another chance????
ooh and he had only a three days of knowing her and in that same week he said that she wasnt right for him .....
so what do you think, does he deserve a second chance or not??????