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Help! Im a 14 year old girl & I meet this really sweet guy...but hes 20 is that wrong

Asked Jun 19, 2012, 08:53 AM — 27 Answers
Ok before u all jump to the conclusion that he is a petafile... Hes not I meet him a the mall bout 1week ago. Hes in a band he onlu lives about.one town ovr from me and we havnt seen eachother since that night! We txt all the time and we call eachother to talk .. We facebook and instagram eachither and we have. accomplished that we like eachother! But he even said it him self that if I was older he would date me.. But I still said I wanna see u and be friends and he said no.matter what happends with us hell always be there for.me but the thing is we both just wanna have fun! We hav so much in common and I havnt stoped thinging.about him its crazy! But I just dont know if he.does this with every girl he meets.. Hes in a band like gurls must chance aftr him.. We have talked out doing things. But ik its wrong but I feel a connection with him <3 help.me fast!</3

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Jun 19, 2012, 06:55 PM


This is how grow men who want young underage kids do it. They tell them they are too young, but guess what, a nice man stops texting, stops email, and stops facebook. They would not spend time on children.

But the men who do, those are the ones who gain your trust, make you feel speical and may for months get you ready where they have your trust and then make their move to have sex with you.

Every thing he has done, and I mean everything is exactly how they all work. I bet he would not want you to tell mom and dad about it, or show them his messages
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Jun 19, 2012, 07:31 PM
Bingo! It's so true.

He knows you're a child. He knows that you're underage. If he wasn't a pedophile, he wouldn't be contacting you, in any way shape of form, and he definitely wouldn't be telling you that he's interested in you.

This guy is a creep! I should know. I've met a few in my lifetime.

I know you're only 14, so you don't have the sense God gave a goat, but there are lessons in life that you don't have to learn the hard way.

I dare you to wait. Give it 4 years. Tell him that you can't date right now, but when you're an adult, you'd love to date him. Watch him run away so fast that your head will spin.

In 4 years you won't remember his name. I bet on it.

Be the smart one. Don't let this creep get his claws into jail bait.
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Jul 31, 2012, 12:51 PM
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I bet he does. Rule of thumb: girls like older guys and guys know this and sometimes use it to their advantage. I have a feeling that's what's happening here, he's just toying with you because he knows he has you wrapped around his finger. He'll have to wait 4 years before you guys can even consider a relationship, a lot will happen in that time, so don't expect much. It's not what you want to hear but it's the truth.


lol not the case, I wish it were.
hey! you gave me great advice on here so can u pilz help me with one of my other questions in here plzz!!!!<33 it would mean soo much
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Jul 31, 2012, 02:11 PM
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Ok before u all jump to the conclusion that he is a petafile... Hes not
If he's the same guy you just had sex with;

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/child-t...ce-687453.html

Then ya, he is a pedophile.
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Jul 31, 2012, 02:21 PM
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If he's the same guy you just had sex with;

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/child-t...ce-687453.html

Then ya, he is a pedophile.
its not its a diff guy, i still talk to the 20. but u were wrong there is no sexual attraction there anymore... like were just friends.. but yea this is a diff guy
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Jul 31, 2012, 02:22 PM
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its not its a diff guy, i still talk to the 20. but u were wrong there is no sexual attraction there anymore... like were just friends.. but yea this is a diff guy
A different guy that you stated is older. How old is he?

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Btw hes older and way more experienced.
You sure do get around, and you fall in and out of love very easily.
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Jul 31, 2012, 03:02 PM
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A different guy that you stated is older. How old is he?



You sure do get around, and you fall in and out of love very easily.
ummi really dont get around and hes 17
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Jul 31, 2012, 03:42 PM
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ummi really dont get around and hes 17
Sure you do. A month ago you were madly in love with the 20 year old. Now, a month later you've fallen in love with a 17 year old, and had sex with him.

Sorry, but the fact that you're 14, jumping from one guy to another, and having sex when you've only known this guy for a short time (either that or you were cheating on him with the 20 year old), well, there's a word for girls like that.

Hope the 17 year old knows that he's committed rape. Is he willing to go to jail for his "love"?
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