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    R0cKin_t33N Posts: 78, Reputation: 0
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    Mar 15, 2008, 09:27 AM
    Is He Worth It?
    I met this great guy who I have been crushing on since I moved to his area(hes my next door neighbor). Well here's the thing I finally got the courage to talk to him, turns out we hit it off and talked for about an hour. He asked me if I was going to be outside later and I said I don't know,
    I thought for a while then I gave him my #.

    Two days later, him and his 2 friends got "drunk" and kept making noises at 5:00am in the morning.

    I tried to warn his friend david, who was aparently not drunk, about the fact that they were going to get in trouble, I also told him to call ricardo(the boy I like) so I could talk to him and tell him what was going to happen.

    My mother beat me to the punch and yanked me out the window before I could even tell him, she also told me to never speak to him again, I defended him as our argument went on.

    He got in trouble (well so I think ) and now I feel retarted for liking/defending someone so rude and unmature.
    I still have feelings for him, Is he worth It?? should I just move on?? what do I do when I see him, ignore him or talk??
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    BMI Posts: 892, Reputation: 270
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    Mar 15, 2008, 09:48 AM
    I think what he did is pretty stupid, forgivable, but stupid. I say that because if he likes you and he lives next door he should have the presence of mind to not act the fool in your own backyard so to speak. Maybe he was trying to be cool, who knows?

    On the other hand, you could say its boys being boys. However, I would caution getting involved with someone who lives right next to you and demonstrates this type of behaviour. If things don't work out you can expect awkward situations almost every time you walk outside your house, also you mother has now black listed him and that makes things even more problematic. I say drop it, unless you really see a long term, meaningful relationship it won't work, addthe fact that you already have an insight into his behaviour.

    You can do better I'm sure. I'll bet a lot of it has to with the fact he lives next door.
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    Mar 15, 2008, 10:35 AM
    Realistically he is the new face, around the place, and your attracted to each other. He is also young and dumb, and drinks. No, it may be more trouble than fun, as he is right next door, and the closeness will bring feelings to the surface, but will also bring misery if things don't work out or turn out bad, as he does drink, and your parents know that. Naw, don't jump into something that close, and unknown at this time. Not worth it I would say.
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    Chery Posts: 3,666, Reputation: 698
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    Mar 15, 2008, 11:27 AM
    Tal and BMI are right..

    Depending on his age, and the fact that he drinks and acts dumb does not automatically make him a bad guy, but he's not an angel either, so just beware. Be cordial and distant. I don't think that now is the time to get in bad with your mother because she is only trying to protect you - just as all of us mothers try - because we love our kids and don't want them to wind up being hurt.

    So, just relax, don't stress yourself out and stick to friends you can be sure of for a while.

    Keep us posted.

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    Mar 15, 2008, 04:03 PM
    Feelings are out of your control, so you're going to like this guy regardless of what he does if your heart wants to. Nothing you can do about that. Just keep your mind engaged in this process as much as possible and DISCERN what you see him doing as more real than what you feel.

    And remember, like it or not, you must obey the parents. If they bar him, you'll have to live with that for now.

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