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me and my boyfrend, we have been going out for more than a year. and i always suspected that he smokes weed. and recently i found out some stuff in his ashtray and i told him that i know he is smoking weed and i showed him proof. but he said its not his and that its his cousine's and a frend's. so i called them up, and his cousine said its none of my business and his frend said that it was his stuff, not my boyfreind's.
i want to know if he is smoking weed. i want to find out. but how can i tell?
Ok, first of all. Smoking weed will not give you a disease. You cant shoot weed up. Its actually a great way to relieve stress. I know someone who smoked weed their whole pregnancy and her baby is healthy as can be. Not that its a good idea to do it. Him smoking weed and getting off in you will not harm you at all. If your against weed, maybe you should leave him. But whatever happens good luck!
so here is me again. i posted a question on february 14th (is he smoking weed?)
and i thank you all for your answers.
since im going to relate my new question to the last one, i'll copy my last question here: "me and my boyfrend, we have been going out for more than a year. and i always suspected that he smokes weed. and recently i found out some stuff in his ashtray and i told him that i know he is smoking weed and i showed him proof. but he said its not his and that its his cousine's and a frend's. so i called them up, and his cousine said its none of my business and his frend said that it was his stuff, not my boyfreind's. i want to know if he is smoking weed. i want to find out. but how can i tell?"
my new question is:
i asked my boyfriend what exactly they were smoking that day and he said that they dont smoke weed and that they always smoke hash oil. and in some odd way i think my boyfriend is with them in that. i know you guys would be picking on the trust thing again, but i dont mind. i just want to know is these symptoms relate to some who uses hashoil.
1. when we are out having a coffee, he'll recieve a call, he'll mumble
into the phone and he'll suddenly drop me home and he'll come pick
me up after 1 hour and when he comes back:
2. his eyes are red shot,
3. he'll be in a better mood,
4. but he'll sweat,
5. he keeps smelling himself
6. he eats a lot
7. he laughs a lot
8. he has short temper and he recently beat me like hell when i threatened to show the end tubes of the cigarrattes i found in his ash tray to his mother. he looked so scary n he beat me everywhere
9. when his eyes are not red, he is pissed off
10. when his eyes are not red, he cant concentrate on anything i say
11. he keeps lookin at the phone expectin someone to call
12. he got some bad rashes recently
i dont know there is a lot more...i dont want to think about it
Look drugs or no drugs....if the man beat the crap out of you..........LEAVE HIM!!!! There is no other issue here. He BEAT you!!! If you only care if he is on drugs (because that makes it better, right?).....he is on something (more than likely)! There is no way to tell exactly what, because most drugs have the same side effects/symptoms.
Take a look at what you are asking about.....and he expects this to be better than smoking pot???? (google it...see for your self what hash oil is.......pretty bad stuff, I would think)
I am not trying to freak on you.....it just kills me how any woman or girl can stand beside a man that even bows up or raises a hand towards her, much less hit or "beat" her. Respect.......not even close to it. Leave the SOB and let some other person deal with him and his drug problems. PERIOD
i know he has done really bad things to me. but i just don't want to leave him, because im afraid i might not love anyone anymore. i don't think i can love again. this is the guy i love. but im not sure if i trust him. i hate myself for thinking that he is lying to me. but im pretty sure he does lie. but yet, i am still with him
If you truly "love" this guy...there would be no reason to distrust him. No true love would involve lying or cheating or beating your partner. Sorry, can you tell I am hung up on the fact that he HITS you?
I promise you...you will find another and another and another.......AND SO ON! There are to many guys out there that will treat you like the lady you deserve to be treated. I would also suggest that you take the time to be by yourself....you sound scared of that. Find your true inner being before you try to learn someone else's. (I am sure you will find that you deserve better than this).
I am only speaking from experience here. If he IS using drugs, the beatings will get worse as he tires of that drug and goes for a stronger one.
1. when we are out having a coffee, he'll recieve a call, he'll mumble
into the phone and he'll suddenly drop me home and he'll come pick
me up after 1 hour and when he comes back:
2. his eyes are red shot,
3. he'll be in a better mood,
4. but he'll sweat,
5. he keeps smelling himself
6. he eats a lot
7. he laughs a lot
8. he has short temper and he recently beat me like hell when i threatened to show the end tubes of the cigarrattes i found in his ash tray to his mother. he looked so scary n he beat me everywhere
9. when his eyes are not red, he is pissed off
10. when his eyes are not red, he cant concentrate on anything i say
11. he keeps lookin at the phone expectin someone to call
12. he got some bad rashes recently
Hello again, a:
Are these the symtoms of hash oil use????? NO!
People who partake in the herb are not violent. They might tear up a bag of chitos, but not their girlfriend.
You've already found the "smoking gun." It's very convenient to blame it on visitors and friends. That's not to say that his cousin and friend haven't been doing it with him ; they probably have. But if you want some real telltale signs, look for these: mood swings/alternating feelings of fatigue and ecstacy, eating binges and subsequent weight gain, frequent phone calls or visits from strangers (especially at odd hours) and the telltale incense-like smell on his breath or lingering in his home or on his clothes.
raggablue agrees: although, as you already know, marijuana is not addictive
Have to disagree with this. Maybe it all depends on how one defines "addiction." But I've known many people who've totally screwed up their lives after starting with marijuana.