We are a blended family, we are married for about a year and we have 3 children under one roof. I was a single mum before our marriage and my teenage boy - (A) is over 17 years old now. My husband was a widower and has 2 children from his previous marriage, 12 years old boy - (B) and 10 years old girl - (G).

We were debating whether we should tell A the accusation from my husband ex-in-law's family (B & G grandma). Recently, B came home, was disturbed and shared with me about his grandmother instigating that A and myself stealing his money. He told me he does not like what she said and knows this was not true what his grandma had said. I'm very grateful B shares this with me and I'm hurt cause this is not the first time grandma,I address her, instigated this. My husband was very angry with their accusation and has warned them of quoting things like this. God is good and has been kind with us, A had then just finishes his exams and started working therefore we disregard their accusation cause A has money paid to him therefore he has money himself and we knew that B has lose it other ways. My past experience since I've moved into my husband house, that B and G misplace and lost their things many times whether monetary or not. Often, our helper helps to find their things.

My husband feels we should all discuss the matter together and tell grandma we knew and stop both B and G from staying over. I agree that we should discuss with both B and G and stop them from staying over, but I feel we should leave A out from the discussion as I'm afraid this would hurt him and stop his future liaison with them, may even exclude himself from all our family gathering that involve them. My husband agrees to do my way but he's not please that I kept the matter away from A because he feels A will get upset if A would one day finds out we knew and yet he knew nothing of it. My husband feel our family should be strong and discuss matter together with A too as this involve him. I somehow don't agree cause it can destruct A's relationship with B & G's Grandma. Please advise me if A should really know this accusation and what is the best approach.

Thanks!

Homegirl 50

Since your family is a blended one, I think these things need to be discussed openly so all parties will know what's going on, nothing held from one person. That can cause friction as well. Get it out in the open.