My girlfriend had sex before she started going out with me

Punkrock1992 · #1 Nov 25, 2007, 10:42 AM

ok so my girlfriend had sex like before i started dating her with her last boyfriend and well a lot of went on like after she did it with him he left her, but thats not the point the point is that im not sure if i want to stay with her i can't explain why i don't want to its just a feeling i mean i love her so so much but i just don't know want to do if anyone could give me some advice on this matter im all ears.

Chery · Nov 25, 2007, 10:54 AM

Do not worry about what she did before she met you. Just don't let anyone pressure you into doing something your are not ready for . It has nothing to do with love if you are not ready. And just because 'everybody's doing it' does not mean you have to jump right in.

Take your time and at your pace, she needs to respect that. You'll know when you are ready. Until then, just have a good time getting to know her and share common interests and fun.

Remember, no pressure...

There is a big difference between love and lust and you'll know it when you feel it.

Punkrock1992 · Nov 25, 2007, 05:53 PM

Well yeah i know its just that like i just can't get it out of my head and i mean i know ill do it when im ready its just the fact that she did it and told me with such detail me and her both wish she never told me

Farmerjohn692000 · Nov 26, 2007, 08:18 AM

man up dude, just because your chic had sex with another guy it ain't the end of the world and it don't mean that she can do it again. It don't make her any less of a person because she had sex before you. When you get married are you going to look down on your wife and not love her because she had others beside you. Just realize your not the only guy in the world and just like us guys women have needs as well. Hope this helps, but honestly don't put something good to the side because of something like that

Chery · Nov 26, 2007, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Punkrock1992

Well yeah i know its just that like i just can't get it out of my head and i mean i know ill do it when im ready its just the fact that she did it and told me with such detail me and her both wish she never told me

So what... imagine the table were turned around and she'd be upset because you slept around.. come on.. get real.

By the time both of you reach my age, you'll have made a few more mistakes, but that's life... and there is no use crying over spilt milk.

Go out and live life, enjoy it, get to know each other and if you have common interests and feel strongly toward each other, get emotional, get close, hug, kiss, yell at each other, laugh with each other... in other words be humans and do human things and forget about things that you cannot change because that's a waste of valuable time.

You either care for each other now or you don't, forget about the past.

XxXtearsascarsbabygirlXxX · Nov 28, 2007, 06:26 AM

honestly u love her right? Well then get over that feeling and stay with her if u love her love should come first i met this bot wen i was in 9th grade and we started datin i was his first and he was mine we were inspirable u and i am now 30 years old and we are still married and sleep in in the same bed and have 2 beautiful children so fallow ur heart ok hun trust me on this

my love my life and my wife

Punkrock1992 · Nov 28, 2007, 05:36 PM

alright thanks alot

cinnamon 4 · Jan 29, 2008, 10:17 AM

talk 2 her.

amberlynn · Feb 15, 2008, 07:43 AM

that depends on your sexual experience.it sounds to me youre a bit shy.?



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