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I recently had a sleepover with my friend, we were playing "truth or dare" so she asked me the furthest i went, i said feeling up, and hickies and stuff, my friend though is a bit "prudish" so after i told her this she got really wide eyed and now jokes about me being a slut. at first it was like haha ok but than she said it at school and she says it so often and says the furthest i went like out loud with like a large group of people, now ppl are callnig me slutty. some jking some not, what should i do. my friend acts like its all in good nature, but i trusted her with this...
btw sorry for the long read, but thanks in advance :].
You should talk to her about how you are hurt that she told others something you thought was in confidence. You should also tell her that the things you did are not really totally responsible, but I wouldn't say they're "slutty", and she needs to stop judging others and worry about herself. As far as anyone else, just ignore them and they will forget about it soon.
she's probably saying it because she is jealous because the things you describe are definitely not slut-ish. There was a girl in my high school we called "the nun" because she was so prude, nowadays she is very much not a nun. To tell ya the truth I think shes just joking around and if not, its because shes jealous. Just know, youre not even close to a slut.
Whether or not she is joking is irrelevant. This obviously is bothering you and she should respect that. Tell her how you feel and explain to her that you told her those things in confidence. If she is truly your friend she will stop saying these things (even if it is a joke) because it is starting to make you feel uncomfortable.
Wow...what a terrible friend. From my point of view, a slut is someone who sleeps around. Your friend should respect you from stopping where you did, cause thats the hardest part. Hopefully now that you've confronted her she'll stop.
It's easier said than done, but just forget it. People can say and think what they want to, but you know better. You are the only person that can make you feel anything.
Don't worry though, people will grow up and you'll leave all this drama behind.
Thnx everyone, so today i confronted her. here was the convo...
me: um look i know you dont think its a big deal that ur telling ppl how far ive gone but it really doews bother mer can you please stop?
her: what the hell... your making a big deal out of this, it was just a joke.
me: i no, jusst please stop. its not like i say your secrets..
her: how the hell is this a secret your over reacting.
than she walked away and i kinda avoided her the rest of the day..
Ever heard the saying "With friends like that who needs enemies?" I think this friendship is causing more stress than anything, and that's the last thing you need. You seem like a bright, beautiful girl, and with the way you handled the situation, you seem like a great friend. Find more friends...this one is not worth your time. Maybe once you stop "befriending" her, she'll realize what she did or maybe you'll realize how much better off you are without her. Either way...it's a win win. Let her do her thing, and you do yours.
I recently had a sleepover with my friend, we were playing "truth or dare" so she asked me the furthest i went, i said feeling up, and hickies and stuff, my friend though is a bit "prudish" so after i told her this she got really wide eyed and now jokes about me being a slut. at first it was like haha ok but than she said it at school and she says it so often and says the furthest i went like out loud with like a large group of people, now ppl are callnig me slutty. some jking some not, what should i do. my friend acts like its all in good nature, but i trusted her with this...
btw sorry for the long read, but thanks in advance :].
well she doesnt sound like a friend if she spreading it around your so much better off without her
ok, now i'd say its time to lose this "friend" because clearly she isn't much of a friend. strike one was being such a ***** after you told you what you'd done by calling you names, strike two was then telling the whole world like it was her own business, and strike three is completely diregarding your feelings. you don't need her.
I agree with the above posters, and only want to add that this can be a lesson for you for the future to: "never kiss and tell"
What she is telling is pretty minor in the scheme of things, and she is an ignorant little busy body for spreading it around. If she brings it up again, you might ask her how she would like to have everyone hear about her prudish ways and that she can't be trusted to keep quiet about things people tell her. Friends don't talk about friends when they are asked not to for any reason.
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