I am a 13 year old who wants to let her parents who she hates them without actually telling them so I can finally tell them I what is in my head. What is the best approach?

Karolina

Tell us why you don't like your parents.

Sweet_Cherry89

why do you hate your parents because i do hate my parents too but you know we have to live with them no matter what ok so get back to me

Alexandra_24

Look I don't want you to get all in my buisness with that. Ijust need the best approach. And it sort of like I don't hate them I just need to get their attention because my brother attempted suicide and they pay more attention to him and I need someone to talk to.

serenitynow422

talk to them. pin them in a corner. call a family meeting. what ever it takes. you never hate your parents you just dislike them a lot a lot. They get confused sometimes, expecially when having two children.

Alexandra_24

Thanks you definitly understand and I see I will try that as soon as possible. I appreciate that alot!

J_9

Mental illness can devistate a family. If your brother attempted suicide he is definately dealing with a mental illness.

Understand that they are not ignoring you, not intentionally anyway. They are just trying to get him better. It may take a while before he is better.

Understand that your parents do indeed love you, they are just consumed right now with many different feelings. They may be feeling guilty, they may think they did something wrong for your brother to feel the way he does.

Yes, you do need to talk to them. Who are you closest to your Mom or Dad? Start with the one who you are closest. Tell them your feelings of being left out. Just take the first step. They will be proud of you for it.

Karolina

Alexandra_24
I think your comment back to me was extremely rude. You had not mentioned what your problem had been with your parents so I was asking in order to best help you.

Diva Dee

Hi Alex,

I am answering you because my daughter's name is Alexandra, and we are going through tough times too. SHe will be 11 in a few months (a pre-teen), but she is very smart and mature, but can be very babyish at times. Your question hit me hard because I personally would be devastated if she ever told me and her dad that she hated us. I think that you should tell your parents that you are feeling very strong anger and or resentment and that you want to find out a way to work things out and TALK so that you would never feel as if you HATE them. I'm sure you do not hate them. I'm certain that you are very angry and need to get some things off your chest. Try it, they may be waiting for you to speak up about many things too. I hope you can talk to them or someone to help you not feel hate. Good Luck & God Bless you.

teenam1112

Alexandra_24 . I am a Mom of a daughter who tried to commit suicide she is 16 1/2 . I did NOT know she felt the way she did . As she would not talk to us . We as parents can't help our children if our children won't talk to us . Maybe writing them a letter telling them how you feel would be a good start . Tell them how you feel and why you feel that way . Now , if it were you that was having a hard time . Wouldn't you want your parents to give you the attention you needed to get better ? It is hard being the parents of multiple children ..... I have 5 girls , wonderful girls . But if they don't tell me what is wrong I can't help them .
I know how I felt going through my daughter's illness with her . That I would do what ever it took to get her the proper help she needed . In order to get better . I worried for my younger girls . But at that moment she needed the help . And after we got her help . We got our other girls the proper help that they needed to help them deal with all that has gone on . We are parents ...not friends . We try our hardest to make the right choices . We don't always make the right ones . But we do make the decisions we make w/ the best intentions for everyone involved . Good luck to you and your family . Rememeber , if we don't talk , how do we expect someone to hear ?