Im a 13 going on 14 female who is still a virgin.....and
lately i have been having the weirdest day dreams usally about having sex with guys im attracted to.
I know it sounds weird and out of line but i was thinking of having sex with one of my old falmes. I really hate the fact that my day dreams have been doing this, i feel out of place.

Hoping that these dreams would stop...i ponder and ask myself this question, Is having Sex painful??

barbiechick123

firstly hun, DONT HAVE SEX ur way too young.. i know that wasnt the qquestion, but i know how you feel, i think its the age that we start to go beyond the kissing stage and on too the more physical attractions, i always daydream about that. But to answer your question, it hurts the first feew times, but than u get used to it, its just kinda aweird feeling. [yes im a virgin] im just assuming lol.

J_9

Have you talked to your Mum about this? This is a question for your Mom, not strangers.

Does sex hurt? Well, having a baby sure as heck hurts and sex = babies.

Altenweg

Yes, it really, really hurts!

Okay, did that scare you enough that you won't do it until you are allot older?

Honey, you are way to young to be having sex. This is not a decision that should be made

because your hormones are driving you crazy. Once you take this step, there is no taking

it back. You might not think that you will regret it, but believe me, one day you will.

Wait until you're older, in a committed long term relationship, and wait until you're ready

to have and care for a child, because sex does cause pregnancy.

Please, think it over, talk to you mom and WAIT!

Take care Dear and Good Luck!

R0cKin_t33N

Well when i ask my mother she just tells me it happend so long and she really doesn't remember
(me and her talk a lot about puberty and choices, but not really about her experiences).
......and i thought that by asking strangers i figured i can get a straight response.

J_9

Well, sweetie, I have a daughter that is 14. I ask her if she wants to rock to rock music or lullabies.

You are way too young to have a baby, and sex = babies.

JBeaucaire

Since you're a virgin, I'll answer the question - yes, having sex the first time will probably hurt...maybe a little, maybe a lot, that's a physiological thing different for everyone.

Now the side-effect of your question - having sex may lead to a LOT pain mentally. Fears over pregnancies, lost trust, guys who naturally lose interest after a conquest and move on (common in teens), and a multitude of other mental stresses in your life you could name better than me.

The only thing more painful than breaking up with a guy you like but it's clear it won't work out forever....is breaking up with a guy you like that it's clear can't last AND you had sex with him. It makes the loss feel 100 times deeper.

That's just the way it is.

Plus, once you cross that bridge it will become a "possibility" in every relationship you have after that. It just will. You'll have popped the bubble (pun intended) and you may start to crave it more and more...nature insures you'll want it, whether it's smart to or not. You just will.

And of course, everyone else is right, too. Sex was DESIGNED to make babies and is a natural and logical possibility every single time you do it, whether you use birth control or not. I don't want to scare you, I want you to accept in your mind the full ramifications of the thing you're contemplating.

amberlynn

Wow, you sound like me.I'm 15.and I had sex my first time in Dec. 2007 with my ex BF of 1 year.I had a dream about it before it actually happened.DONT RUSH.and ESPECIALLY to do it with an old flame.it won't do anything for you.or change anything.you will feel no different.it DOES hurt.alot.because you will be nervous.and you will tighten up & you will not be able to naturally lubricate.it will hurt even more if he is a "big" guy.but don't panic.the pain is definitely bearable everybody has a first time.make sure it IS with the right person.cause take it from me, with an old flame.it will really mess things up.make sure thats not all he wants.cause he will hit it & quit it.TRUSTT MEEE.do not rush into things.your day dreams could be a sign of you making a mistake.but you will learn.just be careful.cause I wasn't.

excon

Hello young girl:

These dreams are just starting. If you're lucky, they'll NEVER stop.

excon

ScottGem

The thing that bugged me about your question was the the old flames comments. You aren't even 14, how can you have "old flames". Sex is something you share with someone you really feel strongly about. It can and does have a profound effect on a relationship, so it should never be entered into unless you care about and have a mutual committment with the other person. Ans sexual intercourse should not be entered into until you are financially, emotionally and physically ready to have a child.

Your dreams and thoughts are normal, but acting on them might be the biggest mistake you ever make.