Hi, My problem is my 19 year old son. He graduated high school a year ago. He lives at home but does not work or help around the house, He is rude and does not follow my house rules. I`m a single mum with 3 other kids at home ages, 18, 16 & 15.He drinks, smokes pot and sneaks his 17 year old girlfriend in to sleep over after I`ve gone to bed. ( I work 6 -7 days a week and have to get up early for work & also have a small farm to run) If I confront him on any of these problems , he swears at me and disparages me, my home and job. He comes and goes as he pleases. I`ve asked him to leave, given ultimatums to no avail - how do I enforce them? He has no where to go after a few days at various friend's houses and ends up here. It`s causing problems & fights and is not good for the other kids who are pretty well behaved. I don`t really want to go to court or the police but I`m sick of it and not helping him by allowing him to laze around and have no goals or plan ( or job) He has no respect for me at all. The police have called looking for him and asked him to call them back, I relayed this info and he could`nt be bothered to call them back. I asked the officer what it was regarding and they said they would rather talk to him. Do I need to go to court to get him to leave or work and , if so, what do I do? Thank you in advance for your answers...