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My 14 year old daughter wants me to take a poll. She feel's like she should be allowed to hang out with a boy she likes. Go to his house watch a movie With his parents at home, or go to the movies, ball games, Mcdonalds etc...
She has always been pretty responsible and has never gotten into trouble and makes decent grades Not honor roll!
This is her Daughter and I think I should be allowed I am a good student and I am very responsible person. I dont let people take advantage of me in anyway.. I dont think it would hurt for her to cut me a little slack I mean I am a freshman in high school.
And I wouldn't let it get serious.
I think a 14 year old girl should be allowed to hang out with a boy in groups (not just a group of other "couples", but not one on one with a boy really. 14 is a little young to start dating, shoot for 16 more, you'll be surprised what just 2 years will do for your maturity level and that of the boys your age. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you will be glad later.
Only at ball games and they do seem like nice people. Their not dating, just talking. We do not allow her to have boyfriends but she is asking to date. DaD says nooooo but he is super strict.
My parents let me visit a boy friend at the time at his house when I was about 15, but his parents who my parents knew had to be present there. But really, I still feel that even though I didn't really go out one on one with a boy until I was 16 and I still feel like I wasn't ready for it. I know it seems harsh, but I am not very much older than your daughter, but even as a young adult I look back and wish I'd waited longer to get involved with boys, they distracted me from school, not badly, but also took up a lot of time, wasted because I could've been studying or with my girl friends or doing things besides wasting my precious child hood with some jerk boy trying to be grown up..
And I'm not speaking from a sexual position at all, but just a general, wasting your time, dating at too young an age position, it's just not really worth it and you're not mature enough for a real relationship anyways/
lol, cahrolotte she is so not grown acting...this child still plays in the mud and doesn't care who sees her. She is also very confident.
She says she has a dad that she knows loves her and she doesn't need a boy to tell her she is pretty and to give her confidence.
She just thinks he is sweet, nice and enjoys his company.
But I see your point, boys do take time away from other things you could be doing to better yourself and get ready for your future and career. I was taught that marriage was the beginning and end and I don't want that for her.
I know where you are coming from Bushg. My daughter is 14 and she has had "boyfriends." She broke up with them within the week though. LOL
Her friend though (13) has a boyfriend and the parents are always around. Parents take them to movies and stay with them, parents take them out to dinner, etc.
I personally think 14 is too young to "date" but group outings should be okay with a chaperone. Yeah, I'm old fashioned. blush blush
I agree with J-9 here about the group outings and chaperone thing.
I never dated boys to feel better about myself, I am a fairly thin, relatively pretty girl, (Not trying to be rude, but honestly I'm not like, ugly and or insecure or anything awful for my self-esteem) my family life wasn't perfect but I always knew I was a decent person and tried to do the right thing, didn't try to seek others's approval really, but I'm just saying that at her age, a boy who is a friend is better than a boyfriend, know what I mean?
yeah j9, she has liked them for maybe a month and then thye get on her nerves. But this little boy she has liked for awhile. Maybe I will allow a group outting. We did let her go to a dance with a boy. But they went in seperate cars. Sigh...I'm stressed
Ah, it's a good time of the year to go shopping. Take them both Christmas shopping, he can shop for his parents, she can shop for her Dad. You will be with them all the time, and it's not like a date.
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