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My 14 year old daughter wants me to take a poll. She feel's like she should be allowed to hang out with a boy she likes. Go to his house watch a movie With his parents at home, or go to the movies, ball games, Mcdonalds etc...
She has always been pretty responsible and has never gotten into trouble and makes decent grades Not honor roll!
This is her Daughter and I think I should be allowed I am a good student and I am very responsible person. I dont let people take advantage of me in anyway.. I dont think it would hurt for her to cut me a little slack I mean I am a freshman in high school.
And I wouldn't let it get serious.
Why don't you take the kids to a movie or to some other fun kind of outing, you don't have to cling to their sides, but you can be around in case anything gets to where you're uncomfortable.
char, I know what you mean. I keep telling her not to ruin a good friendship. Also you never truly know what someones intentions are. Btw I did not have a very good childhood at all....so I am really over protective.
It's okay to be over protective to a point, but when she is maybe a couple years older, start giving her more privileges if she continues to be mature. It's okay for her to like boys, it's normal, and it's okay for her to be close friends with a boy, but she's still young enough that she needs supervision most of the time.
yep she sure likes the mall...she is sitting right here..she says he likes the mall as well. Maybe on my day off. Surely dad will go for that. Thanks for giving suggestions. We'll see wha dad thinks.
Good idea, a trip to the mall, you can even just set up places to meet up every half an hour or so, if you don't want to be too clingy.
I hope your daughter understands that we want her to be able to express her feelings and it's okay she likes boys and we want her to have fun, just that she's young still and she needs to have parental guidance for a little longer.
I'll be 20 in a month and I when I look back I wish my mom wouldn't have let me date at 14. Towards the end of my freshman year i started dating a boy and dated him 3 years.. i was soo shoved up his butt that it almost ruined my whole high school experience. Finally my senior year we broke up and it was good to have the freedom.
Speaking from the mindset of someone who just graduated high school year before last, I wouldn't let your daughter actually have a boyfriend until shes about 16. There is just so many better things about high school then having a boyfriend.. like hanging out with girl friends.. making good grades.. preparing and thinking about college and what to do with your life..
Maybe your daughter will read this, maybe not. If she does I want her to know that she may not plan on it getting "serious" but when your young, its easy to fall in love and for things to get serious.. I really regret being in a relationship in high school. High school should be about hanging out with everyone and having a good time without being tied down.. you have college and beyond that to be tied down to a guy..
Have fun with your friends, study hard, and enjoy high school while it lasts because college is A LOT harder.
I hope I helped somehow..
let us all know how it works out.
This is why we are advocating parental inclusion. The parents should be included in EVERYTHING they do.
My mom was involved and his parents were extremely involved.. but that doesnt matter. Whether his parents are there or her parents are there, they still may be spending a lot of time together.
Gradually she'll start spending more and more time with him.. and less and less time with friends/family/school work.. it could get to the point where they are inseparable. Some parents give in after a while of chaperoning and let the two have their freedom.. thats where it gets worse..
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