Dear expert:
Recently, I am kind of disturbed and contradicted.　As I am a woman, of course, I do want 100% equality in job opportunities and other areas of life as well. However, I am not totally sure if it is right that for me to get benefits of traditional courtship, like being treated for dinners, or should I fight for the check, pay for it to prove my financial viability???
From a doubtful Asian woman　

TeenDemo

Dear Kelly,
Is he telling you to get in the kitchen, cook his meals, bear his children, iron his shirts? Does he say things like woman are worthless, mindless, weak, can't do anything without a husband? If so, thats bad!! If he just
holds doors, and pays for dinner, im sure it's ok and nothing to worry about yet. And if you have to prove your financial viability... it's not worth it!! They deserve to be kicked in the teeth!

jynx3943

I pay for all of the dinners when I take my girlfriend out and she makes more money than me right now. I don't do it to "prove my financial capabilities." I do it because I want to treat the specail girl in my life. Like the last person said, is he doing anything bad?? Or just good?? Think about it... sounds like you have a nice boy.

xxariesxx

She didn't actually say that she's with someone, so try not to assume things.

Kellycheung, it is absolutely alright to receieve equal benefits in areas other than job opportunities.

Many men pay for the bill because they like to do it, it makes them feel like they are taking care of you, and it's a nice gesture. It's not something they do to make you feel badly by any means.
If you would like to prove your financial viability, you could offer to pay for dinner one night if he will pay for it the next. You could also split the cost of the bill so that both you pay equally.

If he wants to pay for dinner I would take it as a compliment and try not to overthink it.