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hey my best friend is copying me! if it was just like the odd thing like a top, or something small like that but its my clothes my makeup my accsesories my EXERCISE ROUTINE!! i cant stand going shopping with her anymore cause if i say i want something she has it a couple of days after it really frustrates me! i mean this really probably sounds like im flattering my self but im not and i am not over exaggerating! i cant exactly just say "hey stop copying me" can i? i dont know what to do... its making it hard for me to to be ME cause shes busy trying to be as well! and shes always telling me how jealous she is of my body my personality my family (she even calls my mum MUM and kisses her) and i hate it cause it aint as good being me as she thinks please help i dont know what to do!
I think you should be honest with your friend.
Tell her that you noticed, and its frustrating you. We are all individuals and its not healthy for her to copy someone, she should have her individuality to be original.
omg!! how annoying is it when ppl do that???!!
i have a best friend as well who for some reason feels the need to be a little version of me.. its rediculous... as you said at first it was clothes and little things but then mannerisms the way i say things, even things ive made up and told him not to steal he's just goes and tells ppl about and what not jsut to make himself look good.. he follows me around like anything and even applied for the uni course i did cos he didnt know what to apply for!!
i think you should slap her into line and say get your own life, cos your not me!
good luck, to both of us lol
She needs to be told something before it looks like you are the one copying her. On one side, she envies you because apparently (in her mind) you are everything she isn't and have what she desires.
How long has this been going on? Tell her that you are flattered but it has to stop, there is only one of you; now its time to find out what SHE likes without any influence from you.
You have had some good answers here, totaly agree that you really need to do something about this and talk to your friend, just make it nice and chilled out....Tell her straight before things get out of hand and you both end up no longer being friends !!!
Maybe go to the shopping mall with your friend and get her to select stuff she likes for herself and then get your stuff once she has hit the check out, maybe help your friend see that things are not all rosie in your world as she seems to think they are, and get your friend to start setting her own style and being herself instead of your twin.
I think the longer you let her copy you, this problem is just going to manifest. I don't think it is a large problem right now, but it has the ability to turn into one. And the worst part it is affecting both of you. I would encourage you to point it out to her, but remember to keep a civil tone and be informative, keep in mind she might deny everything because she doesn't want to believe she is copying you, so just be ready if she doesn't want to hear it. Because if she is denying it at the moment you tell her, than you should just leave because explaining to her all the things you have noticed will only upset her more. Once you point it out to her, I think she will slowly start to change, maybe you can ask her why she wants to copy you, but just remember that you are her friend and you have to be there for her. Ask her what her interests are and what she likes, try and turn the conversation from why she has copied you to what she likes, and like the post above me go out and actively help her get her own style. If you encourage her to be her, I am sure she will follow along, it would be a great idea for you to tag along and give her advice on the clothes she is picking out because obviously she values your advice greatly. In the end, you really should point it out to her and basically enlighten her to the idea, do not call her out and try and be mean, but try and help her through her restructing phase, allow her to "spread her wings" and do what she want's to do, it should all come out in the wash in the end.
Well, they say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. But I'm sure that it must get tiring. It's a phase that I'm sure she'll outgorw. Meanwhile, if it bothers you that much, just back off a little and don't spend so much time with her. That's likely to force her to acquire a little bit of an identity for herself. Then she shouldn't feel a need to copy you so much anymore.
Next time you go shopping at the mall.. act like you LOVE the ugliest outfits in the store. Once she buys it and looks like an idiot wearing it, the joke's on her.
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