im 14 years old and i REALLY REALLY REALLY want a boyfriend, not so much just to have someone to call my boyfriend but someone to kiss and hold me, i want to feel like someone actually cares about me besides my friends and my family, not that i dont like them caring about me too, but i havnt had a boyfriend in like a year and im REALLY lonely. and i would get a boyfriend but there are like 200 ppl in my school and all the guys are either ugly rednecks or jerks, i want a skaterboy, a total badass would be absolutely perfect for me but... i live in Zavalla Texas, most boring place in the world, and the only guy id actually think about dating is Garrett Wright a complete hotty/basketball jock, but hes going out with another girl, 20 times hotter than me, im ugly and fat, i weigh like 112, im gonna go on a diet!!!!! WHY CANT I FIND A GOOD BOYFRIEND!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

californiagrl

I think you're worried about all the wrong things here. First, 14 years old and 112 is not even remotely close to being fat and I wouldn't recommend going on a diet at all. I'm sure you are a very beautiful girl so don't be down on yourself like that. Everyone wants to be held and wants to feel cared about but it is much better to be with someone who cares about you for who you are rather than what you look like. You're 14 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you. You will meet someone who will love you and who you'll love back. When looking for a boyfriend your concerns shouldn't be if he's hot. That should be the last thing on your mind. You need to look for someone who you feel comfortable being yourself with and who can make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.

Niamh-x

Ah the globally asked question: 'Why can't I get a boyfriend?'
I feel the same at this time
Though funnily enough after a few months of going completely single with nobody, last night I met this guy and there was total chemistry and I'm hoping to see him again next week
You never know when someone will come along and it's always when you least expect it
Don't get yourself down about your wait, 112 is not fat for a 14 year old girl, I mean I'm fourteen, and I'm heavier and I've learnt over the past year or so, that it's better to be curvy than looking like you're about to blow over if the wind came - and I've been told that by many a boys
But anyway to answer your question: If you stop looking, someone will START looking for you, I know I sound crazy but it's the way it works, just try to focus more on the fact that you've still got friends and family who care about you, some people would really wish for that
All the best
Niamh x

xxbabykakezxx13

well just try finding another boy don't threat ova 1 boy find a boy that suites u ... i was in the same situation as u once but i got over it and i am going out with sum1 who wont chat to me no more .. so what should i do ? get bk to me asap

thegreatestviz

first of all there is nohing wrong with rednecks...and FYI no redneck would be considered UGLY....

see ill tell you in todays world what a guy wants
a girl who is understanding-not someone who could blabber all day
a girl who knows what she is doing
a well maintained and intellectually sound
some also like it when girls are smart and bold
there is nothing wrong with being fat but getting a b/f to hold you u need to shred some weight too..

boys who are looking for g/f's look at the girls figure first
the way they talk second
and what they talk third

some pay visual attention too so u might wanna get prettier for getting some attraction.
well hope these suggessions work4u
Regards
Viz

volta-rewind

Its understandable that you want a boyfriend.
What girl wouldnt like that? haha

But sometimes its better to wait for someone to come to you, or maybe one day you'll meet him and just know.
But dont keep looking and trying.
Its alot harder that way

thegreatestviz

please explain your situation properly please...

thegreatestviz

some pay visual attention too so u might wanna get prettier for getting some attraction..

u mite wanna get prettier means that- for attracting guys you may put make up
get slimmer
walk with pride and style
be more concious

COOKIE MONSTER

YOU DON'T NEED MAKE UP HUN!!

all make up does is give you spots and if you don't put it on properly you'll look orange.
plus if he doesn't like the natural you then don't bother with him,hes got to like you for you not the rubbish you put on your face

if you want to lose some weight then go running and cut down on the fattening food like crisp,chocolate,pies,burgers,eat an apple instead of crisp,don't drink coke or fizzy drinks they have soooo much suger in.don't eat after 8pm,go for awalk after you've had your meals,try swimming,running ect.hun ive got 2kids,before i had my kids i was 10stone,i put on 5stone with my first and couldn't lose it,then i got pregnant with my youngest who's 7months old,i put on about 3 stone with him so i was REALLY BIG,now 7 months after ive lost it all. look i went from this-having no waist at all to this-got waist now!! just eating the right things and getting plenty of exercise,going for walks after meals,playing football with my eldest.if you put your mind to it you can do it,i did and the fat you get while your pregnant and the fat you have left after having ababy is worse to get rid of than teen puppy fat,ive got bit more to lose then ill be happy but if i can do it after 2 kids then you can

good luck hun and don't wear make up,if he doesnt like you for you then hes not worth it.

how tall are you hun????

kateuk

112 is like the perfect size to be!
I can't be bothered reading other comments, so someone might have already said this...
Don't act desperate, or TRYING to get a boyfriend. It happens so much slower if you act like this. Having said that it is pretty hard to kinda forget about it. But that's the only way it'll really happen. If a nice guy comes along and you chuck yourself at him straight away because of your current mentality, he will almost definitely run a mile. Chill out, enjoy being young free and single with your mates, and see having a boyfriend as only a tiny improvement on an already great life.

wezziebabii28

you is not fat frist off,and you just go up to him and tel him that you like him it dont hurt to ask yea diggg.


good luck