Ok, so I'm 15 (16 in 2 weeks! Woo!) and I've always thought that I was completely straight. I read yaoi and things but I've never been attracted to a girl, but I've noticed while talking to a friend who is similar, I have a fascination about breasts!

My group of friends always pretend to be lesbian with each other and we grope whenever we feel like it because we're childish like that, but I like it so now I'm paranoid.
I can't visualize myself going out with a girl, but I can imagine a one night stand thing going on, I'm attracted to men, I definitely know that.

I was attracted to women at a stage when I was younger (around 9 ish) at that time I had a bi-curious best friend and she "used" me to test herself so we sort of had sex, I don't know if it counts though because neither of us knew what we were doing, we just went with the flow.
And now I'm confused and a little dreading of what I am. Can someone tell me?:confused:

First of all, happy birthday! Sweet 16 is always fun! I just turned 16 4 months ago, and had a blast. I'm still waiting to get my licence though... :)
But, back on topic...

Do you need to know right now?
It sounds like you are self confident, and happy with who you are, so don't worry about it. Hetrosexual, homosexual, bisexual, does it matter? Those are just titles. Just do what feels right to you. You're 16, you have plenty of time to figure out your sexual orientation. Don't rush it, or stress out over it.

Right now, I think I'll go with being Bi-curious, which all my friends are (hence the groping and touching we do) but I like to be prepared so I've become a little paranoid and impatient with myself...

I wish I could say more to help, but I can't say I relate to you with this... I am fortunate enough to have always been sure of that kind of thing. I'm sure someone who can relate to you more will come along on this forum to help you.

Good Luck!

Yes, I hope they do :) and thank you

Hey what's up I know exactly were you are coming from(well not exactly I`m a guy) I`m a male bi-sexual. Being gay or a lesbin has to do with both genes and a choice. Some people are born more gay than others(ie richard simons) some more straight than others and some in the middle. This can effect you choice but not decide it. What your going threw can`t be solved in a day it might take a year or more it's a decision you will have to deciede for yourself. However don`t take it lightly when I came out of the closett my whole family and some friends just abandend me. My father never talks to me any more and I`ve lost contact with most of my family. But I did have true friends who stayed with me and supported my decission. I hope I helped and if you ever need any one to talk to about this you can always email me on the site.

Hm, thanks :) But I can't see anyone abandoning me (not that I care about anyway, like my dad) because all of my friends are open to anything, one of them has told us he's bisexual but we didn't care and still love him, and as I said me and my friends are always doing acts such as touching, hugging and sometimes kissing, which has brought this up in me.

Just be careful not everyone's is as accepting as your friends may be

Many people are not open and accepting, you will find that there is still a large group of people that hold moral values that this behavior is still wrong. But often being molested as you were at 9 years of age could have caused sexual issues within yourself.

I think this is normal. During the teenage years you go through a lot of changes and you get very confused. I think most people experience some sort of uncertaincy of their sexual orientation. I was similar, but then something did happen with a girl and I didn't like it and then I knew.

Best of luck

Thank you very much, I think I'm happy with just considering it. I don't care about closed minded people, I only care about my friends and family, if strangers don't like it then they can just ignore me, if they start trouble I'll call either the police or deal with it myself.

And Fr_Chuck, I wasn't molested, I was all for it, I had another friend who was two years older than me and she told me about sex and how it works, I was (and still am fortunately or unfortunately I don't know) a sexually driven child. It was also her that made me try having sex with my boyfriend at the time because she told us that you do it if your in love and want to marry them, and we thought we were, but nothing happened since we didn't know what to do and we were only 9 and didn't have proper working parts yet.

Sounds like you may be a bit obsessed with sex. Also, honey, at the age of 9, you were molested, because you are not legally allowed to decide to have sex at that age. Where are your parents during all of this stuff?

You say you are sexually driven, bi-curious. Sounds to me like you have a problem with sex. Perhaps it's time to seek counselling, because, really, from what you described, this is not natural.

Being bi, being straight, being gay, not a problem, but just "goofing" around with everything that moves, that's a problem.

Good luck.

I don't "goof" arounf with everything that moves, but I get your point.

I was really shy until I got to high school, there I made loads of bestfriends and we talk about sex a lot, not seriously but my best friend has had sex twice and says it isn't anything special and I'm not looking forward to it, but I'm looking forward to children.

My friend was the same age as me when we tried stuff when I was 9, I wasn't a victim I did stuff to her and she did stuff to me, my mam and dad were at home and I was at her house and her parents checked up on us every couple of minutes to see if we were hungry or thirsty, to me what I do is completely normal because my friends do it to, this is the first time someone's told me it isn't normal

Im still virgin, just so you know. (my attempts at sex when I was young were failures and I'm glad)

Well sex=children. You don't want children. Are you sure you're ready to commit 18 years of your life at the age of 16? Ha!

I'm having a hard time with the "we were both 9 and did stuff to eachother" comment. Honey, at 9 you are not old enough to consent to anything, so in my eyes, you both molested each other, you cannot consent to a sexual act at this age, why, because you don't have the sense God gave a goat at the age of 9. This may sound harsh, but maybe it will open your eyes a bit.

Just because your friends are doing it, that doesn't make it right. Today's teens seem to think that sexual experimentation with the same sex and the opposite sex is okay. It's not okay, it's not right, and it can be harmful and hurtful.

There are teens out there that already know that they are gay, you don't, you're just having fun, experimenting. Is that okay, is it okay to fool around with these kids that know what they are, who are still in the beginning stages of figuring out what their lives will entail, is it okay for you to use them as an experiment? No, it's not.

If you are gay, or bi, that's okay, there's nothing wrong with that. But until you figure out what it is you want, stop playing around in dangerous territory, for yourself, and others.

It is not normal to be obsessed with sex, and it sounds very much like you are.

You may not believe that you were molested, but looking from the outside in, it sounds like you were.

I'm speaking from experience here. I was molested when I was 5, by my female cousin who was 13 at the time. No, I did not consent, and because of what I went through I became a very promiscuous teenager. I was never ever curious of the same sex, but when it came to guys, sweetie, there wasn't one that wasn't good enough for me. I hated myself, my body, everything, my motto was "better to give it then to have it taken". It wasn't until I was older and found a wonderful man that I realized what I was doing and why.

Seek counselling, because I can see this situation turning into a huge problem unless you get a handle on it.

If you want to talk we're here, there's nothing you can say that will shock me, so be honest, be open, maybe we can help you figure all this out in some way.

Well I've wanted a child since I was 14 and my life is as boring as hell so yeah, I'd rather spend 18 years with a child than doing nothing. (that does NOT mean I'd do it!)

And I don't care if I was molested or not, I was 9 it at around 7 years ago, I'm over it and aren't that bothered.
Im not fooling around with anyone who is certain for themselves what they are, I only have two bi-sexual friends and I don't hang around with her, and my other friend is one of my best friends in the whole world.

All I wanted to know was if I was straight, bi or lesbian, but your all talking about 7 years ago and how I'm sexually obsessed, and I don't mind if I am because I actually keep that to myself and only really ever go as far as to talking about sex, my friends and I all have enormous amounts of fun because of the way we are, I'm not about to change the way I act and become self conscious about what I do because people on here say so. If my friends want to stop then I will, it's not like I desperately need to do things, they just make my life fun!

This is a lot of rationalizing but all aside - you don't keep it to yourself. You've posted it on a private message board.

If it were no big deal to you it wouldn't be posted here.

And there's no on-line test (or any other test I'm aware of) that determines if some is straight, gay, bi.

Yes but I don't know you people do I? I wanted a non biased opinion, I keep it to myself when I'm speaking to people I know, and its not a big deal, I just wanted to know what I was in other people's eyes, my past is my past and I can't change anything to do with it, and what I think is my opinion only. Everyone is looking down on me because I'm seeing myself differently on a completely different toppic to what I asked!

I'm sorry but that isn't what you said - you said you don't "talk" about it... and you do. So on some level it's on your mind. That's all.

I also don't see anybody looking down on you - as you said, no one knows who you are so any judgments are made purely on what you post.

Your annoying me. (im not threatening or anything like that, I'm just telling you in case I get snappy or rude, forgive me in advance OK? Please?)

I meant I don't talk about it in person or to people I know and if I do I don't do it very much, and its on my mind because I'm not certain of anything and its getting on my nerves because I like to be prepared for things and know what's happening.

Im just getting agitated because of the thing when I was 9 that I don't care about and everyone is saying I'm sex obsessed (the word sex is annoying me as well) and I don't really think I am, I'm just more open about it than others.