Confused about love.

3blueeyedboo3 · #1 Apr 4, 2007, 02:13 PM

I really like this guy and i think he might like me. He doesnt want anything
permenant but he said he would do things with me and I really want to. In my
head doing things can change his mind and plus it's an advantage to me! Theres
just one problem .. i dont know how to make-out everything else im ok with.
Should i go with the flow ( and maybee make a fool of myself which isnt good )
or should i ask someone to help explain it to me ( which can be embarrising,
awkward and horrible if it gets around )

tickle · Apr 4, 2007, 04:12 PM

Dont try to do it just because you think it will be cool. Dont do it just because he says its cool and he will like you forever. He already said he doesnt want anything permanent, so at least he is being honest that way.

Yes, get someone to explain it to you like your MOM, who is really the only person you should be asking questions of at this point in your life. Trust her to give you the right answers.

Are you comfortable talking to any family member, an aunt, a sister, anyone who loves you will help you. Please ask for your own good.

3blueeyedboo3 · Apr 4, 2007, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by tickle

Dont try to do it just because you think it will be cool. Dont do it just because he says its cool and he will like you forever. He already said he doesnt want anything permanent, so at least he is being honest that way.

Yes, get someone to explain it to you like your MOM, who is really the only person you should be asking questions of at this point in your life. Trust her to give you the right answers.

Are you comfortable talking to any family member, an aunt, a sister, anyone who loves you will help you. Please ask for your own good.

yeah im not comfortable at all . and thats not why im doing it. i like him and I want to ME MYSELF!! its my choice . pleasee... just one or the other answer

this is really rough

LittlePetunia · Apr 27, 2007, 06:47 PM

Don't do it. I'm sorry to say this but doing things might let him stay for an extra week but after that you can't really change his mind. Why do you want to "do it" with him if you know and he knows it's not going to be forever? I don't want to be mean but you are under a spell and you're only fooling yourself that just by doing it hes going to stay. If you both love each other without seeing each other in that way isn't it best to leave it at that. I hope I wasn't harsh but you wanted a honest answer.

crystalbivens · Apr 27, 2007, 07:28 PM

Stop and think about this, your willing to give him pleasure in hopes that he will in return give you love, please please please think this through.
Your putting your heart and reputation on the line all for a guy who has said he dosent want anything perminant from you, meaing he dosent respect you or your feelings and honey thats not the kind of guy you want, although you may think so now because your heart is doing most of the thinking but years from now when you have to look back at the decisions you made, will you be happy with yourself and the choices you made?



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