Check out some similar questions!

jsosad14 · Sep 26, 2008, 08:35 AM

Okay, so I've been going out with this girl for 2 months straight. Then I saw her cheating on me with this other guy:( I told her about it and she did not deny it. She told me she cheated and that's she is not sorry for what she did, then dumped me. :( what should I do. I really liked this girl and she is all I think about. Worst part is that I see her everywhere, everyday. Please someone tell me what to do:(

ScottGem · Sep 26, 2008, 08:40 AM

How old are you and she?

jsosad14 · Sep 26, 2008, 08:40 AM

We are both 15

ScottGem · Sep 26, 2008, 10:27 AM

Ok, Frankly, at 15, I wouldn't call it "cheating". At 15, exclusive relationships rarely exist. At 15 you have plenty of time to meet other girls who will treat you better.

I know the betrayal hurts and there is no way to minimize the hurt. But life goes on. I'm sure you have or will do similar things to other girls in your lifetime.

jrsg · Sep 26, 2008, 10:47 AM

First off, ScottGem, I would say that exclusive relationships at 15 years old do exist, speaking as a 16 year old. Sure, it probably won't turn into marriage, but there is still a trust and relationship there.

jsosad14,
Think about the situation... You "love" her, and want her. But do you really? She cheated on you! And then told you she ISN'T sorry about it! You love the old her. The girlfriend that was. Try to look at what she is now, a cheating b**ch (no offence, but its true). You don't need her anymore. You can find a much better girl out there, no problem.

The fact that she cheated on you is bad enough. But the fact that she doesn't see anything wrong with it, and said she isn't sorry really shows who she is. 2 months seems like a long time at 15, but it really isn't. You need to move on.

And would a relationship work after all this? Could you ever trust her again? I think by her doing this, she ruined the relationship, and she lost a good guy. Too bad for her, you need to move on.

Good luck,
And update us on how you're doing...

ScottGem · Sep 26, 2008, 10:51 AM

Originally Posted by jrsg

First off, ScottGem, I would say that exclusive relationships at 15 years old do exist, speaking as a 16 year old. Sure, it probably won't turn into marriage, but there is still a trust and relationship there.

I didn't say they don't exist, only that they are rare.

BMI · Sep 26, 2008, 11:07 AM

This girl really does not deserve you, that's for sure. Imagine her saying the things she did and then breaking up with you when confronted. She'll get what she gives.

Still though, I know you still care for her and saying she does not deserve you does not make you feel any better. Best thing now is to move on and lean from the situation. Chalk this up to experience. In terms of feeling better... time.

Hope you feel better.

JBeaucaire · Sep 26, 2008, 01:31 PM

Originally Posted by JSOSAD14

what should i do? i really liked this girl and she is all i think about.

Getting dumped hurts. But I think this girl also tricked you. You were actually dumping her, weren't you? I mean, your confronting her about her cheating was leading up to you dumping her... WASN'T IT?

So, I think she pulled a fast on you. Just because she said it before you did, it was actually your idea.

Healthy boys, even at 15, only want to call a girl 'girlfriend' if she's going to be faithful. Right?

Since she cheated, that also means she had already moved on before you two even broke up. So, you're lagging behind and are going to feel it longer than she does.

IMPORTANT: Remember how you feel right now. It will help you if you're ever tempted to be a cheater (we all are tempted, this will help you NOT be a cheater). Also, every time you start longing after her again, remind yourself... "the cheater".

"I so miss my girlfriend....THE CHEATER."
"I wish we were together again...SO SHE CAN CHEAT ON ME."

Only YOU can remind yourself of the reason YOU broke up with her, even if she tricked you by saying it first.

ylaira · Sep 26, 2008, 02:24 PM

First to think about, YOU DIDN'T HARM ANYONE. You can walk anywhere and talk to anyone with your head held up high.

Second, DON'T TAKE THIS EXPERIENCE AGAINST YOU. Everybody here has been 15 and first relationships is JUST ONE of growing pains. Every person that comes into your life has a purpose: be it positive or not.

Lastly, FOCUS TO YOURSELF. I know it will be hard to get over because you see her everyday but then again she's with a new guy? What's your pain to her? Nothing. She's happy and here you are miserable. So instead of killing yourself asking why why why focus in school: divert your attention to sports and other useful things to do.

PAIN MAYBE ANNOYING BUT STILL, IT'S THE JOURNEY THAT TAKES YOU TO BE BETTER.

jambourrie · Sep 26, 2008, 03:08 PM

Has she even expressed an interest in getting back together? The way I see it, it wouldn't really be one of the options- which leaves only one Move On.

jsosad14 · Sep 26, 2008, 06:00 PM

She called me earlier and said she wants to get back together. Should I take her back? She says she won't cheat again but I don't know

jrsg · Sep 26, 2008, 09:15 PM

Personally,
From what I know in the situation, I wouldn't. She cheated, and can't really be trusted. You should move on, and find a girl who you can trust.

You know her and the situation better than any of us here. Do you think you can trust her again? Do you think you can go back into a relationship with her? If you answered yes, then I think you could get back together.

From your last post,

Originally Posted by jsosad14

she called me earlier and said she wants to get back together. should i take her back? she says she won't cheat again but i dont know

This makes me think that you don't and can't trust her after what she did. And in my opinion, you are right. She cheated, and showed no remorse for it. Now she wants you back? You don't need all this drama. Let her go, and find a girl who can trust, and build an actual relationship with.

Let us know what you decide!
Good luck!

cookiegrl23 · Sep 28, 2008, 05:21 PM

You are in love. I think that if she is willing to get back with you, u will say yes in a heartbeat. I understand u still are mad at her. You might hate that u love her sometimes.

JonGram · Sep 28, 2008, 07:10 PM

Get on with your life rasta, these days there are better girls out there. Don't push yourself for this person. One love.

-Jon

BlessdWitTalenT · Sep 29, 2008, 08:29 PM

I would have dumped HER if she would have cheated on me. No one deserves to be cheated on. If she did it once she WILL do it again. I have never heard if anyone that has cheated once and not done it again. And there are many people in my family that have cheated 3+ times. Sad to say but true.