Can you fall in love at 13?

Sure. I did, and that was back in the day when we all had dinosaurs as pets. Anyone can fall in love and feel love and be in love. But would you throw yourself in front of a moving bus to save the one you love? Maybe so, maybe not. Love changes and grows and matures and even dies.

The ancient Greeks talked about three kinds of love--eros (physical love, where the word "erotic" comes from), philos (friendship or brotherly love or love for relatives, where the words "Philadelphia" and "philanthropy" come from), and agape (unconditional love that only gives, never takes).

At 13, you may experience eros or even philos, but probably not agape until you've loved various types of people and gotten some life experience under your belt and matured a lot. But just because someone is older doesn't mean he/she is able to give love unconditionally or even know how to love honestly and faithfully, and yet someone who is 13 might just have that capacity.

(And actually, God is the only One capable of agape, but we humans like to try it out too, to love others without expecting anything in return yet not being a doormat meanwhile--but that's hard to do.)

Enjoy being in love. It's the best feeling in the world!

You can fall in love in any time of age because it's part of our body and feelings we born with it just becarfull you are too young to fall in love with someone , love sometimes it's trun you in bad way don't let yourself control you under stand you can't handle it right now love it's too strong emotion for you don't let it controll you forget it and keep moving your life entertainment your self

Tomboy21
Sure you can fall in love! Wondergirl's post is most wonderful.
I was in love with a boy when I was 12 or 13, I don't remember, but still to this day I love him. He was the first boy I loved, I will always love him in a rather special way.
Are you too young to love? Well, only you can determine that. You probably won't be able to determine it in any realistic sense of the word, not for a few years yet, and then looking back on the situation, you should be able to determine if you were too young.
I'm now 30, and looking back, I don't feel I was too young to love. If you are old enough to feel heartbroken over someone, then you are old enough to love.
People who are telling you that you are too young, are most likely wishing that you wouldn't be in love, so as to save your feelings, because believe me....love hurts. Just remember, just because love hurts, the hurt heals, and you learn and grow because of and in spite of that hurt.
Be careful not to get so caught up in your feelings for this boy that you neglect others around you. Enjoy life, be safe, and learn lots.

Hi, tomboy21!

I like the answers above, and will agree that you can fall in love with someone at the age of 13. However, to have a mature kind of love, one that is based upon experience with life and totally realizing the needs and wants of another individual, and loving them for all they are, good and bad, is something that can take a number of years beyond the age of 13 to develop in order to have that kind of capacity.

At your age, it's a time to learn, grow and practice for the kinds of things that you'll encounter, emotionally and intellectually, to name a couple of things, a number of years later.

Relationships at your age can change in a flash because of all the changes, physically, intellectually and emotionally, etc., that you and others are and will be going through for a number of years before you become mature adults.

Being a teen is a confusing time because you're trying to carve out your niche in life as to what you might want to be for yourself as a person someday so that you can realize your own worth as an individual. It's easy to get distracted from that purpose because your body and mind are also telling you that you need to be getting together with someone who might also be a life partner. Getting attached too soon to someone can hamper doing the things that you really need to be doing for yourself to realize your potential as an individual.

There are some great thoughts in the posts here.

I agree that you can feel like you're in love with someone when you're 13.

My high school sweetheart and I met when we were only 13, and we wound up staying together from when we were 14 until we graduated. You'll probably get a lot of people telling you it's "puppy love," but that's not a bad thing. No matter what you're feeling, just remember to make choices that are based on your age. I know it's not terribly easy, but you just have to assume that there are things no one can know enough about until they're older.

I used to try imagining myself as a grown up looking back on the choices I made, and making sure that the things I did then would be choices I could be proud of in the future. I think it was a good way to look at things.

I hope this boy is a good one!

I believe it is possible. I fell in love then too. And he is my friend to this day. Love is a magical feeling, but if that is what you are feeling, don't ever let it go. Say it when your guy says it to you more than once. You will know he is serious and you can come to terms with yourself and realize how much you love him.

Yh my aunite and uncle didat 12 been together since now there both 35 and married =)

I do believe that it was called puppy love. Your first love it was described. Nothings impossible, and if it was... There would be less children in the world. For to have children you should have to be able to love, unless it wasn't intended.

No worries, they say too young when really they should say, well, make sure he doesn't steal your heart. You're always you and never let anyone change that.

-Absolute

Yes, I think you can. As a teenager, 'love' can feel as real as the person you care about. As far as I know, love knows no age, and people shouldn't think just because to haven't dated the whole world means that you don't know what love is. I know a lady who fell in love with her now husband at age 14, so love, and possibly loose, and love again, no matter the age.