Can a 16 year old and a 13 year old date?

coolabe87 · Nov 3, 2007, 06:20 AM

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Originally Posted by djmidnight

Hi! I have just turned 16 and I am dating a 13 year old, and I was wondering if that is "OK". We are both virgins, and we DO both love each other very much. WE both know our limits when it comes to the relationship, niether one of us would go further than the other would want to at anything. Yes I have just turned 16, and yes lot of guys that age aren't in it for love, but I can say that I am. I am not going to say..ohh I don't want sex, for any guy would like that, but I know the limits. You might think she is immature, but she is not. We like to play around and stuff like that but at the same time we can still be serious and have normal conversations and what not without it getting "silly". Of course, I am more or less afraid of what her parents will think about it. My first thought is they may not like the whole idea, but maybe if we explain all this to them they won't have a problem.
Please help me out on this one! Thanks!

No that's just wrong

MOWERMAN2468 · Nov 3, 2007, 06:58 AM

Its not likely to be okay with her parents. I know it wouldn't be okay for my daughter. And I wonder how her parents don't already know about this, where are they?

Keatts16 · Nov 4, 2007, 09:56 AM

Legally yes.

ScottGem · Nov 4, 2007, 10:05 AM

There is nothing illegal about dating. The legalities come when having sexual relations.

However, I can't understand how you can think you are dating if her parents are not on board with this. A 13 yr old should definitely not be dating without her parents knowledge.

I would wait until she's 14 and then let her get her parent's permission.

Miss Sparkle · Nov 6, 2007, 03:47 AM

To most people it would seem that you are taking advantage of this young girl. Just treat her with respect and don't engage in sexual activities, she's not old enough and you could be prosecuted. Just enjoy eachothers company and see how your relationship progresses

La Siesta Encantada · Nov 7, 2007, 09:26 AM

NO that is not ok. Think of it this way. She has only reached her first year of being a teenager. Sorry if you don't want to hear this but my guess is that she has not even reach puberty yet. I dated a 16 year old guy when I was 14 and I regret it until this day. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE. Please if you can let her stay a kid as long as possible and find someone closer to your age to date. Not to mention if something were to happen that she pressed charges against you that you can be tried as an adult in court at the age of 16. I can't make you do anything. But use your common sense and DO NOT PUSH HER INTO ANYTHING, she is young and gullable. It will be best for the both of you.

confused4 · Nov 7, 2007, 09:53 AM

Ok, I know a lot of people "just say this", but I dated a guy who was 17 when I was 13. And....I don't know. He didn't take advantage of me. But 4 me, when I told my parents they FLIPPED. It was honestly the worst time in my life because my parents neva trusted me. It was horrible. However, of her parents were ok with it it might be a different story. But if there not, please take my advice, and don't do that to her. If you really love her, then you both can wait and be friends for a while intill she hits 14 or 15. That would make the situation a hole lot more better

wonderingirlfriend · Nov 8, 2007, 12:01 AM

Hey there I was 13 when I dated a 16 year old and our relationship was great his parents knew about and so did mine but my parents never freaked on me they said now that I'm a teenager and will make my own mistakes and learn from them but they also guided me in to the relationship also they told me about sex and stuff and they helped me they didn't really care but they also did care a lot when he broke my heart my parents were there just don't rush in to anything with this girl and yes I say it's just fine as long as it's not a sexual contact relationship

godsbabygirl267 · Nov 22, 2007, 10:40 PM

TECHNICALLY YES YOU CAN.
I am also a 13 year old girl and to me age does not matter. Almost all of my guy friends are older than me and all of my boyfriends have been older. THe parents in the situation, may not like it so much. If it was the other way around then it might not be a problem. I can't say first hand, but dads seem to be more protective over their daughters than their sons. I can't really be all that intune with dads though because mine lives 3 states away and I only see him 3 times a year. Mom is also always really busy with stuff and hardly ever notices what I do. Anyways, Age should never create an issue in a relationship, however, in this scary world in which we live, its basically all that matters to people outside of a relationship. Don't let that affect you and her. However, I do not support the main obvective of most guys. SEX DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, take advantage of her and tell her things like, you're pretty, or I love you, or Ill always be here for you, just to get her to have sex with you. That's not right. Obviously she can't be emotionally mature enough to do that. No matter how intellecutally secure and emotionally stable she may act, she can't be ready yet. You can love her though. And you can and should support her and let her know that someone in this big old world loves her. If not that, you can be her friend, her brother, even her boyfriend, but not her LOVER.
Thats about it
L4<3
Nikki

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