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My sister is 13 shes gotten into some bad groups of friends and now she might be pregnate.And the guy who got her took her inocense was 17 almost 18. I feel as if shes still a baby. She's doing drugs, telling my parents off. My parents dont know what to do for her and neither do i. shes to young to be having sex and to young to be having a child to bring up. i mean i havent even had it yet and im 16. What should i do about my baby sister and her getting herself into all these bad situstion? help if you can if not hanks for trying.
thanks lots
dreamday(candice)
First of all if she is pregnant or even if she is not pregnant. This person who did that to a 13 year old. The person is 17 or 18 they can be brought on charges. Statutory Rape.
Where is your mom, where is yourself when she is getting herself into all this mess? Where is the supervision? Where is the parents? These questions will be better answered and would explain a lot of the situation.
Does your mom or you know she is into drugs, how do you know? Have you been involved in anyway, and that is how you know so much about what is going on with your sister?
As far as getting councellers and doctors involved would be the very first step whenever the first sign of trouble appears.
There are several programs, government and non government that would be worth looking into.
First when did the trouble start, what do you think the cause was?
Well see i had nothing to do with any of this i'm just the sister who was concerned and seeking advice so please dont jump down my throat. It all started when this girl moved down the street from us and they became friends. And it was the girls older brother who did that to my little sister. My sister wont let us press charges she clamis she loves him and he promises to be there for the baby if she is pregnate. And supervision wise he wasnt suppose to be there that night his parents had told mine he wasnt there. I know about the drugs because shes telling me about them she feels shes big and bad for taking them. She also says if we preess charges on him shell never talk to any of us agian.
Before you get so defensive, remember your the one asking help here, I need to fill in the blanks and the only way to do that is by asking lots of questions. You do not want the help then do not ask.
Charge the bastard anyway, I do not care if she loves him. I do not care if she threatens to never speak to you or your mother again.
Press the charges and also get her councelling and if you have to turn her in for using drugs. Then she will have explain about where she got the drugs and they will hopefully put her in a program for troubled youth in order to get her off the drugs.
If you and your mother know this is happening and do nothing about it, and actually let it happening then you and your mother are part to blame for this happening to her. So tighten your belt and do something about it.
Sorry for getting so defensive its hard not to when you feel that all your plans for your sister are going down the drain. And we're not part of the blam we tryed councling no help there she wouldnt talk to the councelor she just sat there. If she stops talking to me we'll have no way of knowing whats going on in her life and theres no way we can help than. He has already been charged as it is for he malested his sister along time ago.
The charge of him molesting his sister, would be a seperate charge of him with statutory rape of a 13 year old girl. He needs to be charged with this now.
Is there a father figure at all, or is it just your mom and you?
I know it may be hard, but there needs to be family councelling together. Also one on one, for everybody.
She needs to see what might happen to her if she continues down the path of drugs and sex, and believe me there are ways for that to happen.
I am not sure of your area but since you are connected to the internet there should be lots of different programs government and non government that you or your mother would be able to get intouch with to help your sister.
I know you may feel that if you do this, that she will not open up to anybody, but what choice do you have? Let her continue down this road of construction and you and your mother knowing about it all along. Or actually doing things that right now she will fight with you and your mother with, would it be better to do everything even though it might seem forceful to get her to stop this behaviour?
Maybe not now, but years later your sister will understand that whatever programs that you try to get her into, including boot camp. Or having charged for having possesion of drugs do you not think that maybe she might have a better future if the intervention is right now, even though it may be hard to do or go through with.
By the way there is a father figure but he has to work wich is just about all the time. i have tryed to convince my parents to send her to a juvinial detetion center but she says she wants to go and that would be just giving her wat she wants right? And is that really the best thing to do. and she doesnt have the drugs with her she does them a school.
Juvinial detention best bet. Maybe she will get the help she needs. Maybe she knows that your mom will not do anything and is making a joke out of it. Trying to act tough, but she wont be so tough if your mother brings her there.
She is using reverse physcology on you about the detention center.
I agree with jesushelper that you need to press charges on the guy.
No matter what the consequences are. If she tries to run away or whatever she does.
When she gets picked up they will take care of her and put her in the detention center anyway.
So I say do whatever it takes. If she is pregnant and doing drugs just think of the harm she is causing the baby.
Sue that sorry sun of a female dog!!Sue him for all hes got no matter how your sister feels about it!!!If you don't sue him hes just gonna keep getting young girls pregnant and then ..well you need to press charges.You and your parents arent there to be freinds with her.Your there to protect her from motherfperverts like that.As for the parents of him need some advice to.I mean they are keeping him in there house even though they know he molested her!!In my opinion they need to send the little siter of the sorrypervert to a foster home or to other relatives.As for the***************, he needs to be in jail, do the time for the crime.You cant deal with this sueing business in a calm way./In court you arent supposed to bve nice!!I mean , if you don't take him to court and prosocute, even if he gets off bail, it will still be on his record.If you don't , he could get a job in an environment like a daycare or a school system and then he would just keep going.There are two kinds of bad people ,those who do bad things, and those who see bad things being done and dont try to stop it.You need to take your sister to a planned parenthood or a doctor that cna run some test to see if she is pregnant or not, then if she isnt still prosocute,if she is prosocute and then decide whether or not yall wan to keep the baby, adoption or abortion.You have to do these things.You cant be like the parents of the bastard and just pretend it didnt happen.You need to tell your parents, pronto.Forget about the sister secrets they need to know.Tell them everything you know then make them beleive they cant just shrug this off.In the mean time, try to keep your sister away from her "friends".This gives a chance to become friends with her, find out what you need to know, then after that she might actually agree to stand before ajudge and tell them what that pervert did to her . Telling her she is forbidden to see him will just prescribe anger and rebellion.Lusten to jesus helper!!!!
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