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i wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, alot af makeup, and i look atleast 16.... im 12.
i had a 11 grader ask me out and im in 7th.. and whenever im walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to eachother and then smile.. its weird.
i developed faster than most girls too. if you know what i mean..
i had a feeling that all he wanted cuz he talks bout it to and i walk away and im like okay whatever perv...
ya but hes still my friends nothing more. anyways he thinks im cool and i hang with all his friends.. unno im like one of those girls that hang out with the boyz...
Hun,
You know that behavior determines if you are a "slut" not clothes. The problem I see is that you don't want IDIOTS to percieve you as something you're not by your outside appearance. There are jerks out there who would act agressively toward you, party because they may think you are older, and I wouldn't want to see that happen.
If you slept with no guys than u CANNOT be a slut, a slut is someone who sleeps with alot of guys. HOWEVER, u can give the impression you are a slut by the way you dress. High skirts and other revealing attire gives the impression of showing off for the men, getting their attention through what we all know makes them look.
But no your not a slut................my ex-girl...........well thats a SLUT......LOL!
Let's put some responsibility on the guys who look at girls in a perverted way. Guys that are perverts will be so, regardless of what girls wear. No girl is suggesting that she will give away free sex by wearing makeup and a short skirt, that is simply the perspective of the one looking. It sounds like you are in need of some attention, even if it isn't positive. Yes, there are creeps out there that you need to watch out for, no matter what you wear! Also, I think slut is a strong word for a twelve year old. I don't think most girls who sleep around at age 12 do it because they love to have sex and be promiscious. IT is usually because they want to be loved and accepted by guys and they think that is the way to get it. They don't usually want to have sex, but they do it because they feel that is what will keep or get them a boyfriend. Don't allow yourself to be sterotyped in such a way. You have a difficult time already. You are a child, but what you have been through in your life is more than some adults that I know. It seems you want to feel like you belong somewhere, you want to be noticed and loved. That is normal. Everyone does. The people who should be giving you that love and security aren't in your life and that makes everything more difficult. It is hard to know what the right choice is sometimes, and the fact that you aren't sleeping with anyone, is very smart of you. I am proud of you. That isn't easy when you have no one really setting boundaries or limits for you. You need to get involved in something that you care about. Get your mind off of what others think of you and if they approve or disapprove of who you are, what you look like and how you dress. If you continue to dress older than your age, it will continue to attract people that are older. Be the 12 year old that you are. Innocence is so precious and I speak from experience. I did way too many things too young and I didn't feel like a kid anymore. It changes you. You can still climb trees, use your imagination, start volunteering and work with people or animals, dress up and be goofy, dance and have fun with your friends. Start a club of some sort. Do something that you are good at and realize the talents and gifts within you that are waiting to come out. Don't allow other people to define you or determine your worth. This has to come from within. You are a good person, you are beautiful and intelligent and you have a lot to offer this world. IT doesn't come just from the way you dress. Live your life to be the best you can be, and remember never allow ANYONE to tell you that you are a slut, or stupid, or anything. You teach people how to treat you, and the better you feel about yourself, the less people will try to take advantage of you.
So, bottom line, answer your own question. NO, you are not a slut. YOu are figuring out how to be a young girl in this crazy society. You get a lot of mixed messages from many different sources. The media, magazines, the movies and of course, your peers. Listen to your own voice. That is the one that will guide you down this turbulent path of the teenage years. Continue to write down your feelings and express yourself, it is very healthy for you.
I wish you the best. You beautiful, young girl!!! YOu are just trying to find your way, give yourself a break. You are your own worst critic!!
haha! what you just said says it all for me thats how i feel and, and, omg i couldnt agree more!
oh and i like acting.... thats something i could start. when i was little i used to fake cry and my dad would feel bad so we would go to chucky cheese! LOL! ya and ive played in alot of plays! so maybe.. i love to write poems.. im really good at it.. and they arent likke about little kid things the are meaningfull...
heres one i wrote at um 11?
Do I love him?
How do I know?
Is there any love left for me to show?
How can I find my heart?
I thought I loved him from the start.
Now I'm just confused not knowing what to do.
There has to be a way.
Should I let him go?
Or should I let him stay?
Right now I don’t even know.
If he stays with me he will never be able to see
and he will always be lost.
My heart is what I have to find
and now I finally made up my mind.
I’m going to let him go,
but it doesn’t matter anymore
because love is something that I don’t know how to show.
The memories I will miss a lot
I guess I will never know if I loved him or not…
good huh?
LOL i made so many people cry with some of my other ones...
Acting and comedy are two of the chosen careers of former battered children and children (boys and girls) with really lousy pasts. Those that survive their childhood use this to keep their sanity.
It is far better than drugs and ditches as a choice for life.
Choose your path, dear, and don't let anyone stop you.
haha! i wish a could acctually become and actress.. i mean my grandmas filthy rich anyways cause my grandpa was the first mayor of villa park but ya.. i really do wish i could becaome one that would make alot of things better...
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