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To all teens wondering if they should have sex. (from a teen perspective)
Ok, why am I writing this?
To give you an honest, and true answer from a teenage perspective. (I'm sixteen years old)
All of you, probably don't know my story. But, in hopes of trying to prevent horror, pain, and misery to occur in your life, like it did mine (which, I'm still working on to get over) I'm going to tell you all my story.
When I was 14 years old, I met my (ex) girlfriend who was 13 at the time. We were in a serious relationship for about two years. Before engaging in sexual intercourse, we began with experimentation, I.E. oral, phone, fingering, hand job, etc. After, we got comfortable with what we were doing for about a year, we decided, "CONTRARY, TO POPULAR BELIEF, WE'RE MATURE ENOUGH TO HAVE SEX. WRONG WRONG WRONG... We had NO CLUE, what we were doing. Didn't understand the possible ramifications of our actions, and therefor, payed a hefty price.
Yes, we used protection, both a condom and birth control.
Did it prevent her from getting pregnant? NO.
We PANICKED, we had no CLUE what to do.
Till this day, I have not forgiven myself for what we've done.
Aborting a baby because of something we SHOULDN'T have been doing in the first place, has scarred me for life.
I know what you're thinking to yourself.. "It can't and wont happen to me"
Oh, trust me, YES IT CAN.
Wake up from the little fantasy land you live in, because you are not immune to danger.
Not only should you not be having sex because of possible pregnancy, it WILL RUIN your relationship. After we started becoming sexually active, that's all we started doing. There was no more adventure, fun, and charisma in the relationship. It all became about SEX.
Through the same old routine and ruckus, came problems.
Arguments over the smallest things. We both became miserable, because, we were no longer having fun.
Fast forward a couple months later, and we're no longer together.
Do I miss her? of course. Will I move on? Eventually, but you know what? It's going to be 10x harder then it would normally be, because of all the sexual emotional turmoil that shouldn't have taken place at our age in the first place.
When grown ups tell you not to have sex, it's for a reason.
I do not believe that to be true. sex is a way of expressing how much you care or love somebody. if you think the only outcome of sex is getting pregnant, you're wrong. sure sometime protection does not work, but most of the time it does. I respect that it is not for everybody, but for those who it is, leave them be, its not going to kill you, its good, enjoy it.
I do not believe that to be true. sex is a way of expressing how much you care or love somebody. if you think the only outcome of sex is getting pregnant, you're wrong. sure sometime protection does not work, but most of the time it does. I respect that it is not for everybody, but for those who it is, leave them be, its not going to kill you, its good, enjoy it.
I agree totally! Sex is a way of showing someone that you trust and love them, shaw u dont have to have sex to show that, but its somehing two people can share with a lot of meaning. you said that really well. !
I do not believe that to be true. sex is a way of expressing how much you care or love somebody. if you think the only outcome of sex is getting pregnant, you're wrong. sure sometime protection does not work, but most of the time it does. I respect that it is not for everybody, but for those who it is, leave them be, its not going to kill you, its good, enjoy it.
Love is definitely a way to express your love for somebody. The only way? No. A smart way for a teenager to show love? No. Sure, the only outcome of sex isn't pregnancy. Did I fail to mention herpes? chlamydia? HIV?
Sure, there is the possibilty that your could get a STD, STI, but iif you are careful, and make sure that you are clean, then what is the harm in that? teens these days are becoming alot more responcible.
no, sex is not the olny show love, and sure maby its not the best way, but it is still very immportant, not to the fact that everybody should do it, but that the people who feel redy can. sex should not just be aboout having a child, it is a way of showing compassion, love, caring, if you are doing it with the rite intentions, it can be a very emotional action. its a bond that olny the 2 closest people can feel. if you think me to be wrong, please say.
Sure, there is the possibilty that your could get a STD, STI, but iif you are careful, and make sure that you are clean, then what is the harm in that? teens these days are becoming alot more responcible.
no, sex is not the olny show love, and sure maby its not the best way, but it is still very immportant, not to the fact that everybody should do it, but that the people who feel redy can. sex should not just be aboout having a child, it is a way of showing compassion, love, caring, if you are doing it with the rite intentions, it can be a very emotional action. its a bond that olny the 2 closest people can feel. if you think me to be wrong, please say.
Yes, sex is not only about having a child. BUT, IT'S A BIG PART OF IT. To be having sex you need to make sure that if you do end up pregnant that you are physically, emotionally, and financially able to support a child.
Yes, sex is not only about having a child. BUT, IT'S A BIG PART OF IT. To be having sex you need to make sure that if you do end up pregnant that you are physically, emotionally, and financially able to support a child.
ah far out! its sex. yeah it can lead to other bad stuff only if ur not carful ENOUGH. 411 you obv made some mistake to get her preggers, but thats you! that happened to you and its something that you have to deal with. just becuase one mistake you made messed with ur head doesnt mean that it WILL happen to everyone and that EVERYONE will get a sti or preganant if u have sex. u are the 1 peron out of a zillion million people who will get someone pregnant even though u used proper protection. yeah it can happen,. but i can walk out my door and get shot or hit by a bus but that doiesnt mean ill never go outside and enjoy the sunshine!
ah far out! its sex. yeah it can lead to other bad stuff only if ur not carful ENOUGH. 411 you obv made some mistake to get her preggers, but thats you! that happened to you and its something that you have to deal with. just becuase one mistake you made messed with ur head doesnt mean that it WILL happen to everyone and that EVERYONE will get a sti or preganant if u have sex. u are the 1 peron out of a zillion million people who will get someone pregnant even though u used proper protection. yeah it can happen,. but i can walk out my door and get shot or hit by a bus but that doiesnt mean ill never go outside and enjoy the sunshine!
, I completaly agree, and think this person im completely rite!!
this matter should be left alone, it is a persional opinion, and people should not try 2 force there thoughts on to others.
CASE CLOSED!!!
How is this not relevant? It's something that I'm doing that I'm not suppose to do without fearing the possible ramifications, it's completely relevant.
, I completaly agree, and think this person im completely rite!!
this matter should be left alone, it is a persional opinion, and people should not try 2 force there thoughts on to others.
CASE CLOSED!!!
I don't think anyone is trying to force anything on anyone else. You are the only ones getting so upset about it, for some reason.
All the OP is doing is offering advice, because he cares about others and doesn't want the same bad things to happen to them. So, show a little respect?
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