Hi I'm 17 and I dated this guy for 2 years and now I think I'm pregnant by him. We haven't spoken in 3 months and I have a restraining order against him because he used to beat me and the last time we spoke he said if I was pregnant than he would hurt the baby and now I'm afraid to tell him and I wanted to know what some other people my age thought about it. He made it clear before I thought I was pregnant that if I ever was he wanted nothing to do with either one of us. Should I tell him or just go it alone??? I do have a new boyfriend who has an 11 month old and supports me and loves me either way. What do you guys think I should do?

chipmunk2921

I disagree with abortion too. If your new boyfriend has an 11 month old and supports you and his kid and you love him i think you shouldnt tell your ex. All you need is the boyfriend you have now.

kanicky73

First and foremost I agree with Krs, most pregnancies by a 17 year old are unpredicted and unprotected, a mature decision needs to be made here. Secondly, all of you are forgetting one very important thing here, I full heartedly agree that she needs to not tell him, have the baby and lean on the new guy to help her thru this. What we are all leaving out here, is why does this loser get to get off scott free? Once the baby is here, he cant harm her unborn child anymore, but he needs to get his butt to court to set up child support. Why should she have to financially support this child on her own. A loser like that is only thinking of himself and how much a baby would cost him!! Too bad he should have thought about that before he had unprotected sex as well. It goes both ways, a woman can offer the protection just as easy as a guy can. She also needs to make sure that the restraining order she has in place does not expire. If it is set to during the time she is pregnant or after the baby is born she needs to keep on top of that.

rhia

Umm, if he said he would hurt the baby...don't tell him. Because if he actually beat you, what makes you so sure that your child could be safe with him? Be careful. If you're ready to be a mother and want to be one, then you should raise the child. If you are not ready, then don't.

shorty_got_skills

i think you should tell your ex, cause every guy has a right to know if he has a mini him walkking around. And if he doesnt care then screw him! You have someone new that loves you for you and thats all us girls need! GOod Luck!

9hththt2

If I were you I wouldn't tell him.
And you know what... I would never have an abortion - that's a horrible thing to do... You have to protect your child...And yourself.
I'm sure that if this guy who is with you really loves you he's gonna be a great father, he's gonna stay always by your side, respect you and help you with your baby. Good luck

N0help4u

I would let it go for now. If you tell him now he could give you a lot of emotional stress while you are pregnant and that is not good for you or the baby. He is out of your life and you have a good chance at a new future with your new boyfriend.
It would be better to wait until an appropriate time comes up to tell him. Like maybe after he sees the child. You could mention something like-- it might be his but your boyfriend is raising him like his own-. Then he knows but he also realizes you haven't come after him for support or anything. Often mothers, fathers, grandparents, etc....say they do not want anything to do with the baby until after they actually see it.

mustang0529

If i were you i wouldnt tell him he doesnt diserve u or this baby think of both of you u wouldnt want ur baby to be hurt by him the safest thing to do is just let it be!!!just because the other guy isnt the father that doesnt mean that he's not going to be there with you threw the hole thing and for when the baby is born!!! just be happy and not tell him!!!

bjorn2256

I´m 14, but if he has threaten you, you should probaly tell someone, either, a guidance counselor, maybe your parents, or another trusted adult.

blitz1

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Leedee

I would keep it from him - for the time being anyway - you dont need the added pressure of him whilst your pregnant. It sounds like you have a great guy by your side , just make sure you tell him the truth and eactly whats going on.

There will be a time when you will have to tell your child who their father is but for the time being take care of yourself and you baby.

He sounds like a jerk and you and your baby are better off without him.