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All right, so I like this girl...

Asked Jul 24, 2012, 11:47 AM — 36 Answers
Ok well I'll try to give as many details as I can here so I don't have to go back and change anything or have to tell anything else.

Ok so to start, I'm a 16 year old boy, I'll be 17 in 10 days. She's 16, she will be 17 in May next year.

Ok so the girl I like, she lives next door to me weekly, and every other week she lives at her moms, her moms is only like 10 miles away. So I get to see her a lot, we recently started becoming really close friends because we both figured out at the same time that we have a lot in common. But I've liked her since I met her like a year and a half ago. Her brother is my best friend and her mom loves me, her dad doesn't even know me because he doesn't like meeting people. I've told her brother that I like her and he approves of it and thinks I'd be the best boyfriend for her so far, and I'm telling her mom about it this Friday.

So here the beginning of why it's tricky to me, She has a boyfriend. She's had him for two years, they've broken up five times, twice because he cheated (great guy right?) Their last break up was three weeks ago. So I'm honestly just hoping that they break up again soon and I won't have to do anything. Hes been kicked out of his house already because he was doing a lot of things he shouldn't have been, he lies to her like seriously every day, he's not the smartest person in the world. But her mom like seriously hates the guy because everything he's done to her, and her dad is the same way, the only reason they still let them go out is because they don't want to see their daughter in pain because of them.

But yeah I think you see my question here, what should I do?

I plan to just keep waiting for now but I've honestly never loved someone as much as I do her, we talk every day, we are great friends, and her family (besides her dad) loves me. So yeah tell me what you think, Internet.

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Jul 26, 2012, 06:08 PM
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What brings me to what conclusion?

I have stepchildren. I told you how I would react if you showed up at my door for whatever reason you intend to show up at this mother's door. If you can't understand that, I also have dogs. Fill in the word "dogs" in the place of stepchildren.

I'm not going to argue your social experiences, your large circle of friends, your knowledge of girls/women, why this is your first girlfriend. I continue to belief there is a lot more interaction with a lot more people if you are "trapped" in school with them every day from 8AM to 3:30PM. You don't think so. We have different beliefs, and I'll leave you to yours.

I've said all I have to say on the subject.
This conclusion: "Look, I think you've been sheltered. I think at your age you are at a level with the 12 and 13 year olds who post about their first crush. That may or may not be a bad thing. Do I think it will ultimately cause you problems? Yes. Do I think it's a result of home schooling? I thought so, but if you've had a lot of exposure to girls/women, then maybe not."

And actually me and her are meeting up somewhere to talk, me and her are friends.

(and it's believe, not belief. Please.)
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Jul 26, 2012, 06:23 PM
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This conclusion: "Look, I think you've been sheltered. I think at your age you are at a level with the 12 and 13 year olds who post about their first crush. That may or may not be a bad thing. Do I think it will ultimately cause you problems? Yes. Do I think it's a result of home schooling? I thought so, but if you've had a lot of exposure to girls/women, then maybe not."

And actually me and her are meeting up somewhere to talk, me and her are friends.

(and it's believe, not belief. Please.)

Sorry. I wasn't even home school AND I went to college AND I got into law school. Amazing.

While we're on the subject it's not me and her. It's she and I.
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Jul 26, 2012, 06:49 PM
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Sorry. I wasn't even home school AND I went to college AND I got into law school. Amazing.

While we're on the subject it's not me and her. It's she and I.
What does you not being homeschooled and going to college change anything? I am also going to college just to let you know.

And thanks for the help.
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Jul 26, 2012, 06:51 PM
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What does you not being homeschooled and going to college change anything? I am also going to college just to let you know.

And thanks for the help.

Any time. Sure - let me explain what just happened.

I corrected your spelling. You're in high school.

You correct my spelling. I'm a college graduate.

If you still don't get the humor, let me know.
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Jul 26, 2012, 09:12 PM


You could benefit reading about similar experience on this forum about how pursuing some one that has someone actually works out. There are many of those similar threads. Many even includes the family members, and it generally ends in disaster.

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/...st-569661.html

Bottom line, you can listen to the advice and learn from the experience of others, or you can learn the hard way, by doing it YOUR way.

So go ahead do it your way. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst, is my last bit of advice. Please keep us updated.
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Jul 27, 2012, 12:41 AM
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Any time. Sure - let me explain what just happened.

I corrected your spelling. You're in high school.

You correct my spelling. I'm a college graduate.

If you still don't get the humor, let me know.
Yeah I got it haha, Ive just been a little uh, distracted today because I was planing on telling her mom tomorrow but now I'm second guessing my self, but if I'm doing that then I wasn't really art in stone to begin with so it probably isn't a good idea to do this right now anyways.. Hmm.. Well she actually might be too busy tomorrow anyways do I might get a little more time.

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You could benefit reading about similar experience on this forum about how pursuing some one that has someone actually works out. There are many of those similar threads. Many even includes the family members, and it generally ends in disaster.

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/...st-569661.html

Bottom line, you can listen to the advice and learn from the experience of others, or you can learn the hard way, by doing it YOUR way.

So go ahead do it your way. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst, is my last bit of advice. Please keep us updated.
and thanks, its nice to read all of that even though it's not exactly the same as my situation it's sorta close. I'll keep you guys updated.
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Jul 27, 2012, 05:48 AM
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You could benefit reading about similar experience on this forum about how pursuing some one that has someone actually works out. There are many of those similar threads. Many even includes the family members, and it generally ends in disaster.

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/...st-569661.html

Bottom line, you can listen to the advice and learn from the experience of others, or you can learn the hard way, by doing it YOUR way.

So go ahead do it your way. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst, is my last bit of advice. Please keep us updated.

Right to the chase - we're on the same page here but I always like what you have to see, seek it out. This sums it up.
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