My 16 year old daughter hates me, ranaway from home and now lives with her Dad

Shug1234 · #1 Nov 5, 2009, 08:13 PM

My 15 year old daughter ran away from home about 2 months ago and was gone for 2 weeks. That was the worst 2 weeks of my life, I cried everyday. Her Dad lives out of state, but got her for visits when he could, when my husband, her stepfather and I found her, it was 2 days and her Dad come and got her to live with him and has kind of taken over the situation. She has no remorse or feeling about what she put us through, only that we have ruined her life and are being mean to her, she just wants to be with her friends who are not and have never been a good influence. The Holidays are coming and her Birthday is coming. I miss her and love her so much, but I am very hurt by what she has done and am struggling with the decision for her to live with her Dad for a while. I feel guilty and so sad!! Everyone keeps telling me that she was out of control and these arrangements are for the best now! I can't seem to find any answers for the way I feel, heartbroken, guilty, sad, very confused. If she calls me crying that she misses her friends and hates it at her Dad's, I just fall apart. I still usually cry every other day, because I don't know how to feel and what is the right thing to do. Help!

artlady · Nov 5, 2009, 09:04 PM

I am sorry for your pain,been there.

Teenagers are like two years olds its all Me me me .

She is crying because she wants the easy way out and I suspect her tears get to you big time,thats normal.

I remember when my kids were little and I gave them a spanking and they looked at me with such a "how could you do this " look it broke my heart.

But I KNEW I was doing the right thing.

Talk and continue to talk and tell her why she is there.

Because you love you and you can't control her.

Putting her in the hands of someone who loves her and can help her rein things in is a good thing.
You know that!
Hang in there,it does get better once they are about 30

problem2009 · Nov 6, 2009, 07:50 AM

I do really feel sorry for you and let me tell you , me and my wife are going through the same problems as you do , I cant write right know but I will share our story later this evening , when Iam at home .



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