15 and pregnant

tonvwill57 · Dec 7, 2007, 11:17 AM

I'm 15 and pregnant. The father is only 13. My mother and his mother want us to give the baby up for adoption. My mother saids that she does not want the baby in her home. I intentionally got pregnant because I wanted a baby. Now she doesn't want me to keep it. Can she make me give it up or will the law force her to let us stay in her home.

fiona445 · Jan 9, 2008, 06:52 AM

mm see where you are coming from

Marriedguy · Jan 9, 2008, 07:38 AM

I probably going to take alot of heat for the comment but honestly an abortion is in order if it is possible. As a parent who had to almost lost a child during my wife delivery in scared to attempt to have another child.

Now she is 13 and wants to give birth to a healthy baby. Then what raise a child in a cardboard box. This is the begining on the horrorible story.

I dont blame 13 year old I'm blaming the parents of these children. How does a 13 year even get the thought in her head that its will be ok to get pregnant.

alchinastarr · Jan 11, 2008, 12:07 PM

if you want to keep the baby then keep it. it's your baby and you should do what you want. don't let other people tell you what to do! make your own choices, do what you think is right for you and your baby! it's your life!!!

mraquino21 · Jan 11, 2008, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I have a friend who's 15 year old daughter got pregnant by some boy she met at a party. The mother wanted her to give the baby up for adoption, the girl wanted to keep the baby. She kept it, didn't want to have to take care of it all the time, so the child became the grandmother's responsibility.
And what does this girl do? Two years later, she is pregnant again, different guy.
I'm all for showing kids understanding, but these young kids need to know they are bringing another human being in the world that has to be cared for and raised. You don't have babies at 15 just because you want one and the government should not have to take care of them. Kids need to be told they are wrong when they do something wrong that has dire consequence.
I fell sorry for this young lady because she has no clue what she's gotten herself into, and the boy, I don't know what he must be thinking.
Someone is going to have to raise that child, her mother will probably end up doing it. I just hope she isn't understood and coddled so much that she'll see no problem with getting another baby in a couple of years.

I just wanted to touch on this. I agree with Homegirl 50. My cousin gave birth to her only son at 15. She didn't do it again. But, she did allow her mother to raise her child. She finished school and even college but when she wasn't at school she'd be out dateing and playing while her mother took care of her son. She is now 35 and her son is 20. he just had his first child. She is now a grandmother at 35.

If you talk to her she says that her and her son are best friends and buddies.
If you talk to him he says that she is like his sister and his grandmother is his mother.
The roles are too confused when this happens.
I still think if she keeps the baby and her mother does help her she should finish school and spend everyother second with her baby raising it.
I hate to say it but when you become a mother your life ends to an extent because now you have this dependant being that comes first that you have to think about. Alot of sacrifies have to be made. Good luck to you and the baby whatever choice you make will be hard.

N0help4u · Jan 11, 2008, 01:58 PM

Where I live I see this all the time. Kids want to have a real baby. They idealize what it will be like. 10 years ago there were sooo many 13 and 14 year old girls in my neighborhood getting pregnant because they wanted a baby like ALL the other teenage girls. By the time they were
16 and pregnant for the second time, 18 and pregnant for the third time guess who was raising them because the kids would rather run around with their friends and couldn't be bothered with the babies (let alone not able to afford them). THEIR mothers. So I can understand your mother wanting to give up the baby for adoption. She sees it as a irresponsible mistake you made that you will not be able to handle realistically.
She may even feel that keeping the baby is equivalent to condoning what you did.

You have to consider all aspects of things rather than decide I want....therefore I will.



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