I just found out that my 14 yr old had sex. My heart is broken because she always promised she would wait till marriage. I feel like she lied to me and betrayed my trust. I'm not sure what to do. Take her to a doctor - Yes! But punishment? The damage is done. Please advise!

Synnen

you have GOT to be kidding.

If a girl gets pregnant, it's because she was having SEX--a choice her parents didn't make, SHE did.

As far as the earlier comments about removing a girl from her social circle--I never said that. I said she lost her Saturdays and the right to be alone with a boy. That's not "losing your social circle".

Missing your prom (though she's probably too young for it anyway) won't scar you past your high school years. It's a stupid dance that you pay too much for and that no one talks about for longer than a month afterward. I was BORED at prom.

Having to SEE the consequences of making the choice to have sex is a better deterent than her mom just saying "don't do that! Bad things could happen!"

Because really--what 14 year old actually believes that their parents know what they're talking about when it differs from the kid's own opinions on things?

younglady13

maybe your just a boring person and girls remember it for years after

Homegirl 50

An no 14 year old girl should be having sex. And no young girls should be getting pregnant or STD or Aids. But it happens. Kids should not be in jail either. But when you do things, there is a price to pay. If you don't want to pay the price, don't things you should not be doing. But if you do it anyway and get caught, it's on you. Own it.

J_9

WHAT!!!????

Honey, go to bed, it's past your 12 year old bedtime.

If a girl gets pregnant it is her fault, as well as the boys. Her parents did not stick the penis into her vagina, and if they did, they should be arrested.

Now, your arguing back and forth is not helping the original poster, and, it is sad, but she probably won't be back because of this.

Therefore, this post is effectively closed.