14 yr old had sex - I'm lost at what to do?

Denise1128 · Dec 4, 2007, 07:40 AM

I just found out that my 14 yr old had sex. My heart is broken because she always promised she would wait till marriage. I feel like she lied to me and betrayed my trust. I'm not sure what to do. Take her to a doctor - Yes! But punishment? The damage is done. Please advise!

Homegirl 50 · Dec 4, 2007, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by younglady13

i meant that she shouldn't be punished yet explained to why she shouldn't do that until older and anyway what's your recomended age for sex

If she is doing something she has no business doing, then yes, she should be punished. Otherwise she just does it again.

younglady13 · Dec 4, 2007, 06:38 PM

sex is natural such as a boy humping his mom's bra magazine it should be prevented yes but if you really want to you should because if you refuse these urges your body could fight against you such as helping diseases destroy your body

younglady13 · Dec 4, 2007, 06:39 PM

yes punished but nothing as harsh as being locked up in her room for months at a time

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Homegirl 50 · Dec 4, 2007, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by younglady13

sex is natural such as a boy humping his mom's bra magazine it should be prevented yes but if you really want to you should because if you refuse these urges your body could fight against you such as helping diseases destroy your body

You don't act on every urge you have. Masturbating is a lot safer at 14 than having sex. Kids that young should not be having sex.
You cannot get sick at 14 from not having sex.

younglady13 · Dec 4, 2007, 06:48 PM

if older your grades can drop

Homegirl 50 · Dec 4, 2007, 06:54 PM

Your grades don't drop from lack of sex either. Your grades may drop if you are preoccupied with it, but that could happen with preoccupation with anything. You discipline yourself to do your work to keep your grades up.
I wasn't having sex as a teen and my grades never dropped because of it.
People often go for long periods of time without sex and they survive. A 14 year old teen will too.

younglady13 · Dec 4, 2007, 06:58 PM

i think we should agree to disagree i can see your right but wrong like me and i think your kind of stubborn like me and this could take awhile

Homegirl 50 · Dec 4, 2007, 07:08 PM

I'm not stubborn. I'm 54 years old and I think I know what I'm talking about, but if you need to believe what you do, you go right a head.
I'm done.

Baby-_-Girl-_-19 · Dec 4, 2007, 07:17 PM

Not to get in the middle of your guys' discussion but either way you want to look at it 14 is way to young. I dont think an extreme form of punishment is going to help her daughter any. As i said before chances are, unless she understands the full consequence to having sex at such a young age shes just going to think that "mommie's out to ruin my fun" and be twice as likely to rebel and repeat current behavior.



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