14 year old 4 weeks pregnant

jmb6364 · Feb 4, 2007, 11:05 PM

my daughter just turned 14 last week and found out she is 4 weeks pregnant, i dont no what to do

prettyinpink · Feb 8, 2007, 09:59 AM

Ok first of all NOONE should ever resort to ABORTION..That is not the answer if you are having sex you have to also consier the consiquences.I was 15 when I got pregnant and thought about abortion but I also had to think about just because I was careless it's not fair to my unborn child.I am now 17 and my daughter is 8 months old.And I swear on the bible I wouldn't change anything that happened.I love her and she is my world.Every child is a gift from god now why would you even consider abortion you could always give he baby up for adoption.Please consider other options and E-mail me if your daughter needs someone to talk to.I know what she's going through.

CynthiaEnriquez · Feb 10, 2007, 01:52 PM

I got when I was 14 1/2 the worst thing they could do is to talk about abort. Please lisign 2 what she wants 2 do, and be their 4 her and most impo. talk 2 the babys dad.

1992DodgeSpirit · Mar 5, 2007, 08:42 PM

If i was her dad id find the guy and break him in half... girls her age shouldnt be getting preg or even be having sex... i believe in sex after marriage... cause with girls alot of guys try to use that i love you line just to get em in bed and its as wrong as can be, just be there for her and love her, thats all you can do, i wouldnt know what to do either if i was her dad, id just be so pissed off and want revenge in everyway possible

arturosmommy · Apr 10, 2007, 02:09 PM

im 14 years old and im 8 1/2 months pregnant although im older then your daughter and ill be 15 on the 24th.. i think that you should talk to her.. it was very hard for me when my mom found out i was pregnant she kept pressuring me to abort.. i hated it i felt that even though i was young i had to make my own decision about it.. im sure its hard for you too... the lst thing you want for your daughter is this but its not the worst thing that could happen. just make sure you go over with her how hard it is.. the morning sickness the swelling, the backaches and the stress of being sooo young. it is very hard for me and now i relize even after my mom told me. Having a child is a big responsibility. i think you should just remind her that you love her and let her make her own decision. and remember its not the worst thing that could happen..

TheSavage · Apr 10, 2007, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by worthbeads

I don't know about anyone else, but I am wondering how this happened.

Just a thought.

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alkalineangel · Apr 10, 2007, 06:34 PM

I think that you need to sit down with your daughter and discuss the pros and cons of all scenarios. adoption, abortion, keeping baby. Once she sees it written out like that I think the best answer will come to her. I am sure she is a smart girl who just made a stupid mistake. We have all been there at some point. Personally, I think at 14, she is far too young to care for a child. She can not hold a job, drive to the doctor, or rent an apartment. You will be the one caring for the child while she is in school, and since she can not hold a job or get an apartment, you will also be feeing, clothing, and housing the baby. That is not necessarily fair to you. She needs to consider that in her list. I also believe at 14 she is too young to carry a child. The baby could cause health issues in such a young body. Now, believe it or not I am Pro-choice, although I would never personally have an abortion, but I understand situations come up. I think that if she did manage to carry the child to full term, it could be born with a serious defect, and/or harm the girl. That isnt to say that abortion is the easy answer either, it could also pose health risks to the girl. If the baby was carried to term and born healthy, then you must face the emotional hardship that you daughter will undergo with adoption. I think you are stuck between a rock and a hard place here. You and her need to sit down together and really weigh all the situations. I wish your family the best of luck and I hope that I was able to help. I am really unsure what I would do in your situation, but I know for sure that I would listen and love my daughter, and support her in whatever decision SHE made. Because ultimately it is her life and her child at stake here. I also agree with some other posters that some sort of therapy or counselor would be beneficial. I am keeping you all in my prayers.

dawnstephenson · Apr 28, 2007, 10:10 AM

im 27 i had a termination at 16 and it was my choice not my farthers but for 2 years im trying to conceive but just found out im 4 weeks pregnant what im trying to say it she has all her life to have a child but also can you live with regret esspecially if you make the chioce for her and in a few years time she throws this at you are you stroung enough to make the rite choice

cennet · Apr 28, 2007, 10:27 AM

where were you when she was out getting pregnant, it seems to me that you need to be more aware of your childs whereabouts, your lucky a pregnancy is all she got

TheSavage · Apr 28, 2007, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by cennet

where were you when she was out getting pregnant, it seems to me that you need to be more aware of your childs whereabouts, your lucky a pregnancy is all she got

How can a parent be with a child 24/7? -- Savage

kanicky73 · May 7, 2007, 10:34 AM

alkalineangel, your absolutely correct that from a "legal" stand point mom can not force her to do anything. That is whats wrong with this entire thing! You can better believe if it were me in this mothers position, I would not be thinking about what the law says, and I would telling my daughter the way its going to be! If my daughter was smart enough and did her homework on the whole legal aspect of it and told me to buzz off, then so be it. But if she was smart enough to do that, maybe she should have prevented an unwanted pregnancy!