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My preacher teaches from the Bible that Christians' should not have pre-martial sex. I know for sure his 20 yr old daughter is having sex. Question: Should I tell him or his wife?
Telling the preacher and his wife is not what you want to do here. I agree with Joe and Rick - it is not your problem. While it may irk you to hear the preacher expound the virtues of virginity and waiting till marriage, it is not your place to be the bearer of the news of his daughter.
No one - preacher or otherwise - wants to hear about their child's sexual conduct.
And to further clarify, although I know you're not implying it:
That the daughter is having sex before marriage does not make the preacher a hypocrite for preaching against it even if he knows about her.
I add this only because I've run into the exact same situation many times in my own life. I teach my kids, and tell others if they ask, what I believe is right, but
1. Not all of my kids have always done as I teach and say, and worse yet
2. I myself have done wrong; that is, done other than what I "preach".
...but I still know, teach and exclaim what I believe.
I'm not sure I totally agree with the rest of the posts. Sex outside of marriage is so common in our culture, that no one even thinks about how harmful it is to her to be doing so. No sin is without consequences and she could be messing up her life. How well do you know her? Are you close enough that you could approach her in love without condemnation, but with concern for her well-being? I would talk to her directly as she is an adult woman. She needs loving concern and guidance. She may not listen, but other than praying for her, I think your responsibility would end there.
Well I don't have any daughter so I know its not mine. But likely my son with her.
It is most likely that they know, pastors family are the same as everyone elses, they try, but kids do what kids do and often pastors children rebel more at first.
And not wanting to be mean, unless you were there watching them, you don't know for sure, you just have a good idea they are.
It does not change the fact it is wrong, and it does not change the fact they still love thier daughter.
Don't tell him, but if you know her then contact her. It may be too threatening to talk to her directly. Maybe you could send her a book! All you can do is get her thinking!
I would stay out of it. She is a grown woman, it is not up to you, or her family, or anyone else, what she does. Its up to her. Everyone has different moral standards, let her have her own. Its not her fathers fault she is having sex, or her fault her family preaches against it.
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