Find song by video desription

There's a video I remember probably from 1999 to 2002 (maybe older) A girl wakes up in white sheets, gets up, takes a shower, wear make up, high heel black boots, skinny (prob. Black) pants, takes her stage card and dj equipment and leave. I also remember that the girl in the video was a fan...

A couple of years ago I heard a rock song where the lead singer (he wore make-up and had long black hair) rang his friends to say he was going to commit suicide by jumping off a bridge. They were (I think) in a pub, and they got in a car to go and save him (one had bleach blond/yellowish hair) but...

What's the title and the group? Lyrics I remember are : Someone must have hurt you so bad Video: He's tied to a chair and she's beatiing him up I think it's twilight time and maybe car headlights are illuminating?