[Tyne26]

If anyone has read my previous posts then basically I have been struggling to get over a girl I was seeing. Everyone who has given me advice on this forum has been so helpful and I greatly appreciate all the help aimed at me.

Advice which I have been given is to spend as much time with friends which I agree with. Im having difficulty with this at the moment. Round about four years ago I split from my girlfriend and lost all the friends I had as they all hung around with her and I felt I was pushed away from the crowd. So after that I met some guys from university and started to go out with them sometimes which helped in a great way to get over this situation. Today I find myself not feeling important in the crowd I'm with now and to be honest I have always felt like this. I called my friend yesterday (twice) to see what he was up to, he hadn't heard from anyone and wasn't sure but would let me know. I then find out they went up to the pub and I got no phonecall. Now this "friend" that I called is honestly not a bad guy and is basically a guy who is a forgetful person i.e. "dizzy" minded. The thing I see but is that if I am with him and I say "du want to go up the pub" he will say yes but phone one of the other guys that goes up, so I naturally think why doesn't he do that when I'm not there.

A problem with this as well is that they stay near this local pub I stay about 3-4 miles away so I have to travel over by car. I feel so stressed about this and it really gets me down and with my situation of losing the girl I like it makes it so much worse. If I look at her situation she has friends who love her, call her all the time and as far as I'm aware she is now seeing someone else. Basically her life is great.

Why is it I am not regarded as a person people would like to be around with, I don't argue with people or be nasty to them I just naturally join in the conversation??

I hate feeling like this as all I do is blame myself. It must be me who is a problem to people or I am just boring, why else wouldn't I be contacted?

Can anyone relate to my situation, any advice would be great?

[Tyne26]

Im assuming no one can relate to this situation? Honestly guys any advice on this would help a lot.

Thanks

[LadyLuck1269]

Hang in there, time will heal your heart.
I would say the reason your friends are " Stand off'ish " is because they are picking up on your depresstion, your hurt, pain, and lose that you feel over losing your girlfriend. Sometimes people just don't know what to say. The best thing for you to do is keep going out, meet new people, make new friends... and just keep an open mind... keep moving on... your true Soul Mate is out there some where... go find her.