[Xenoreaper]

Hi, My name is Jarrod

I have been with this girl for almost three years this September. I know that I love her and we have a beautiful 1 year old son. Now, since we have gotten the internet she has been spending a lot of time talking to other men and fantasy role playing. Some of the things she does when she role plays make me very angry. I always thought that when you have a significant other that anything sexual should be done together. She says that it isn't real and that its only the character that she portrays doing the acts. But I don't see the difference between that and Cyber-sex. Especially when our sex life isn't that good anyway. I just don't understand how she can enjoy doing this knowing that I know about it. I would feel really guilty if I did that with someone other than her. So what I want to know is, Am I right to feel angry? Is she wrong for doing this? I don't know please tell me your thoughts if you have any.

[freebird1981]

I would feel the same as you. I go into chat rooms sometimes, and if somebody comes over for a private chat and they ask for something other than that I say no that's what my man is for...
She is disrespecting you, and damn sure if my man was doing that in our house we wouldn't be together anymore.

[robertsqueen]

Yes, you have every right to be angry. She is cheating on you. Any type of sexual feelings or acts with another person is considered cheating. You need to sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that she is hurting you. Oh and congrats on the son... they are so cute aren't they. Anyway if she can't understand where you are coming from. And doesn't think about your feelings maybe you should get out.

[talaniman]

From your other post and you both being so young I think your in over your head here. She has to many problems and issues that require professional help to deal with. I doubt she can see what she is doing wrong so is unlikely to change or even understand what your concerns are. Unless she gets the help she needs, I'm afraid that you will have a lot of suffering to do. You and your child. Seek the counsel of a professional to guide you through the process of reconciling her short comings, and see if she will get help with you.

[Ash123]

I concur. Your domestic life is not healthy. Get professsional help.

[tish_the_dish843]

I think u have all the right to be anger