[zulfi63]

Now a days people, most of them well educated, indulge in sex with other than their legal sex partners. What the people say of this practice. Kindly give your opinion in this regard. Keep it mind that if any of the two legal partners know about such activity by the other partner then he or she will feel cheated. If you agree that such a practice is most insane and inhuman, then what should be done to so that our society get rid of this nuisance.:)

[JoeCanada76]

I think the practise destroys the relationship. If the other partner knows about it and feels cheated then what they need to do is get a divorce. It is unexeptable behaviour even though it seems like it is happening a lot more now a days.

How to get rid of this nuisance. I hope you do not mind, I am going to go back to bible days. It is kind of barbaric but any body found committing adultery their punishment was to be stoned to death, that is the old testament. In the new testament, we all have sinned so we can not condemn anybody and we need to forgive that person.

The only way to end the behaviour for sure is no second chanches, yes forgiveness eventually but an immediate divorce should happen. THIS OF COURSE IS JUST MY PERSONAL OPINION.

Joe

[curlybenswife]

Just remember this is just your opinion there are many others out there who would just look and say whatever.
You must wonder though what makes them be unfaithful in the first place or want to share there partner there must be something not quite right for it to happen.
No one is perfect the world would be a very boring place if we were some people just aren't able to be with one person as sad as that sounds its true.
Although I do believe if you take marriage vows it should be adhered to those words between two people be them said with in a church or registry office or anywhere come to that should not be taken lightly if you choose to be married its for life that partner is your wife/husband for the rest of your time till death do us part.

[EnglishRose]

Sadly, I don't think we can rid the world of things like this. This is moral issue so it will probably never be regulated by law. The only thing we can do is pick our partners VERY carefully, making sure they feel the same way you do on the subject. I have personally been cheated on in a relationship (I caught my boyfriend in my bathroom with my flat mate at 3am!) but if I'm honest I was not shocked. Devastated but not shocked! I knew in my heart of hearts he could not be trusted (My flat mate on the other hand was a major blow!). Since then I have ended any relationship if there was not 100% trust and now I am planning to marry a wonderful man who I would stake my life on his fidelity, even though we are going through a rough patch.
I am not sure whether I could forgive an ifidelity in marriage.

[smoothy]

I agree in that you won't be able to get rid of this any more than attempts to get rid of the worlds oldest profession have worked. Not saying that makes it right. Just being realistic in the fact some things just are.

[EnglishRose]

Very true, although that at least is regulated by law, even if it is by no means under control. Though, can I ask, what made you bring this up zulfi?

[Emland]

I think it is a weakness of character in the person that does the cheating. They feel the need to hurt their partner; feel the excitement of doing something they shouldn't; or need to feel important to more than one person.

I have no idea how to stop it since it has been going on since mankind has walked the earth.

[EnglishRose]

I don't think many people set out to hurt their partner, but I'm sure everyone knows that they will.

[Matt3046]

Concentration camps, round them all up and send them to live in South Dakota. And make them concentrate on what they have done.

[smoothy]

Concentration camps, round them all up and send them to live in South Dakota. And make them concentrate on what they have done.

Why would you do that to the people of South Dakota. How about Massachusetts instead.

[EnglishRose]

Can you imagine the off spring they would produce??

[Matt3046]

Probably wicked, evil little adulterers. (wicked is a Mass. Reference)

[Synnen]

You know... not all people who cheat are chronic cheaters (the once a cheater, always a cheater philosophy).

I once cheated on my then-boyfriend, now-husband.

I had tried every trick in the book to get his attention, and couldn't. He was absorbed in his own thing, and I was lonely, my self-esteem had dropped (when you parade out in new lingerie to get someone's attention, and they say "not now", that's a bit crushing). I am not making excuses, just trying to give you my mindset.

When someone came along that appreciated all of the things my man was taking for granted, it was like a drug. He loved my cooking, adored how I looked, we could talk for hours, etc etc etc. I was so starved for affection at the time, that one thing led to another, and we ended up in bed.

When I confessed, my man was devastated (as he should be!). He was hurt, and angry, and it took a long time for him to trust me again. He did, however, turn his act around. I have never EVER again felt taken for granted, unattractive, boring, or lonely.

Cheating was a wake up call for BOTH of us about our relationship, and what it would take to make it work.

That being said... not ALL relationships are defined by the Christian idea of one man, one woman, forever and ever amen. For some people, it's one man, one man. Or one woman, one woman. Polyamory works quite well for some people (not CHEATING, but POLYAMORY. Look it up if you don't know the difference).

Cheating is defined by the people in the relationship. For some people, going to dinner with a member of the opposite sex is cheating on their partner. For others, it's not cheating until there is sex involved. How can you outlaw something you can't even define?

[ordinaryguy]

The cure would most assuredly be worse than the disease. Like many of the other "cures" we have dreamed up to inflict upon ourselves.

[shorterok]

I guess Enlgish rose has an answer for everything

[EnglishRose]

Of course I do hun, but really its more that I have a lot of time to spend on here as it is the only website I can use at work

[laura hamilton]

I have experienced the Once a cheat always a cheat saying. My boyfriend moved in with another woman for 3 months and I had no idea. When I Found out I gave him the benefit of the doubt looing back now what an idiot I was! Then about four months ago I find out he had a one night stand with a girl he used to go to school with and got her pregnant. She kept the baby and I told him where to shove it. Heartbroken ever since though!

[EnglishRose]

You poor thing, that must be deverstating. You were mad to take him back but I guess you know that now. Not that I blame you of course, we have all fallen victim to some smooth talker at some point in our lives. I'm not convinced that if someone cheats once then they always will, but at the same time I would not get back with someone who cheated on me after I made that mistake before. It hurts more than anything doesn't it hun. If you fancy a whinge feel free to send me a message x

[E3317]

Cheating is nothing new. It is just now days people are not afraid to bring it up. Back in the day it was known to keep these things a secrete. How do you stop it? Simple you can't it is in the very fiber that makes us human. Many people do it, I'm willing to bet that half of the people that have commented on this have either cheated or been cheated. If we round up all the cheaters and put them in a separate place the few people left in the world would be lonely. You can select a partner that is less likely to cheat, but some of the best fall into the lifestyle. When you think about it we are being tempted every day by countless stumili. The human body is a beautiful thing, when coupled with a winning attitude it is a very hard thing to walk away from. To close this cheating was here before us and it will be after us. Mistakes will be made, famalies will be crushed, but love is suppose to conqure all.