[AnyoneKnow]

Ok.. can't find this anywhere on your site. My husband and I live in upstate NY. He has decided he wants a divorce. This is after I have lived with his cheating throughout our 30 year marriage because of our kids. Since our kids have moved on.. we have stayed together due to the grand kids. Yes.. I love him.. but we have a lot of issues from the past that just won't go away. Including him trying to sleep with my SONS girlfriend a couple years back. I got the "I'm sorry".. and the "I love you and will never do it again bit." I stayed because we are both totally disabled. Him from work.. myself from a car accident that HE caused!

Now.. here's my question. He's on Workmans Comp and Social Secuity Disability. He gets $1262.00 a month from Comp and $1190.00 a month from SSD. I get a lousy $200.00 a month from SSD. I had been doing day care for my daughter for 6 years prior to the car accident which dropped my income drastically compared to what I received as a hairdresser. My husband SAYS.. that he contacted his lawyer and was told I would only receive an $800.00 a month compensation for spousal support off his SSD.. but I couldn't touch any of his other money and the judge would not force him to pay anything else.

We bought a house 2 years ago <after I cleared up all his credit with my SSD payments> and have a lot of other debt. Can anyone advise me from here on what my legal rights are? I called a few lawyers but most want over a thousand dollars to represent me in my case. I could really use some help here.

Thank you in advance.

[iluvky]

I am kind of in your spot. I've been married for 20 years to a cheating husband and now he's moved out and gets military retirement, he has a job and I get NOTHING from him. He does pay the house note. That's it. I have get nothing but SSD.

[AnyoneKnow]

I am kinda in your spot. I've been married for 20 years to a cheating husband and now he's moved out and gets military retirement, he has a job and I get NOTHING from him. He does pay the house note. That's it. I have get nothing but SSD.

Thank you for answering my post. I am so sorry you are in this situation. Since my post my husband has come back on bended knee.. however.. I'm not so gullible. He wants to stay with me.. but I want security. We have filed for legal separation with him giving me half of his total income... including half of the profit if we ever sell our home. This will now protect me if he ever starts his crap again. I have come out lucky.. I hope you do too.

I pray things get better for you.. and hope someone answers our question so that it may help you as well.

Hugs,
A friend