[margueritekoko]

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago! I kept lying to him and hurting him the last year and a half! He has finally had enough of it and after both of us crying and arguing he decided that he has had enough and he doesn't want this anymore! At first I thought this was like our usual break ups, that we would keep texting and be OK at the end of the day. But this time is different. Only last week he turned up at my house telling me he loved me and cried for us to stay together.

This week I went to his house crying. He told me that he doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want to be with me or talk to me. He wants space. In the years and a half we have been together we have been so so in love, talked about marriage and planned our future, we never had a night apart so it was so hard for me to give him space. I sent him a really long email telling him how sorry I was and that I understand that I treated him so bad. I made him a CD too. I have heard nothing from him at all. He was so in love with me up until a week ago. I don't know what to do.

I text him on Wednesday just letting him know that I missed him! He never wrote back. I text him this morning a couple of times. He wrote back and said that we are over forever, he doesn't want this anymore, he doesn't miss me, there is no one else, but he is happier now.

Is he just angry? Does he need space? It's only been a week but I thought that he missed me by now but he doesn't! I love him so so much and I will do anything to get him back! Help me!

[Mobley119]

It sounds like you really hurt him. From what you said it sounds like he still loves you but he has realized that he needs to be without you. You need to leave him alone and not text him anymore. If he can't be without you he will contact you but until then you need to respect his decision. In your next relationship you shouldn't lie, its not healthy nor helpful. How old are you both?

[rocketman11]

I am going to be honest and I'm sorry to say this but you have destroyed your relationship with him completely because you broke the trust, one of the key foundations of a good, healthy relationship.

You seriously need to look at the circumstances of this breakup. You obviously did not truly love him because you showed him no respect because you continuosly lied to him, thus hurting him and destroying his trust in you.

When you say, "He wrote back and said that we are over forever, he doesn't want this anymore, he doesn't miss me, there is no one else, but he is happier now. Is he just angry?" he is telling the truth because he has finally had time to think and realise that he deserves someone who will treat him with love and respect.

You need to think about how he is feeling. Just imagine being in his shoes. How would you feel if someone you loved continuously lied to you?

Stop contacting him, leave him alone, don't be friends, move on, and learn from your mistakes. From what has happened you can not be together anymore because it will not be a healthy relationship.

[talaniman]

You have done enough damage to this relationship, and you must let it go, and take time to learn that lying is not a good thing. I don't know why you expect him to ever believe anything you say. "I am sorry" is not enough.

Stop lying, or you will pay even more consequenses than the end of a relationship.

[JudyKayTee]

Everyone has a different threshold of pain - he's reached his.

It's over.

[reidsmomma]

Your answer is in your question. He's done leave him alone