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    Jun 14, 2012, 02:13 AM
    I need advice
    My best friend loves me and even I had attraction for him, he loves me a lot and cares for me but he is of other religion and I can't marry him. During that period another guy came to my life that is of my caste and religion and he proposed me. I fall in love with him, but after 6 months I started missing my best friend for all the love, care and pamper he used to give me. I started missing him and felt bad because I ignored his love. Now I'm talking to my best friend again and I have expressed myself to him that I have feelings for him. I love my boyfriend and looking forward to marry him but we are into Long distance relationship and sometime he behaves rude to me. I don't know what I should do? Shall I continue friendship with my best friend or leave him and continue with my boyfriend no matter how he behaves with me? Please advice
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    Jun 16, 2012, 03:44 PM
    I know its tough when you have feelings for others but when you accept a propsal, at least be loyal, and don't make a BS excuse to lie or cheat. You want to explore love somewhere else, at least be honest, and dump the boyfriend. Don't lie to either of them.

    No excuse for bad behavior, no matter what feelings you have!
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    Jun 18, 2012, 06:14 AM
    Thanks Dear, I'm very clear about my thoughts now. Though I didn't lied to any of them. I was just confused what to do and I have decided to carry out my relationship with him till then end and make it more better. Lets see how it goes. Though I liked your thoughts. Your advice is really helpful :) Take care and god bless you!
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    Jun 18, 2012, 10:52 AM
    You should do what makes you happy, drop the guy that treats you badly and that you are with because of a high level of influence from society, and go with the person that you actually want to be with. Being with someone, and talking to someone else who you have feelings for is cheating.
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    Jun 22, 2012, 08:31 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mmresd View Post
    You should do what makes you happy, drop the guy that treats you badly and that you are with because of a high level of influence from society, and go with the person that you actually want to be with. Being with someone, and talking to someone else who you have feelings for is cheating.
    Hey Javi,
    Thanks for your advice and I really liked one of your thought saying that "You should do what makes you happy". I am a kind of girl who always thinks of others before her and very caring. So most of the time I left myself hurt because of others. I am sure now what to do and I appreciate all your advice. Hopefully I have started implementing one thing in my life now that is I'll do what makes me happy :)

    Take care,
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